fed up

elle_baby

& disgusted with people that just judge others without knowing them. Its really ridiculous idk why people can be so cruel. Why is it so hard to just worry about urself?? Like they say if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. No matter where u go, who u talk to, what situation your in people will always judge yes I know but where is the line?

Sorry just had to vent lol.

myheartbelongstojc

Lol there will be people who have a good meaning in there opinions towards someone and then there's just those who see pleasure in judging and pretty much jerks! And on these discussion boards i do believe people misunderstand things and take them offensive because we are reading them and not hearing them i just seen one in a discussion were someone was put down for a opinion that actually had a point

elle_baby

I think I know which one ur talking about lol which I always try to put myself in each persons shoes to see things from different perspectives. There was actually some judging going on. I mean its ok to say ur opinion obviously bt not to say stuff like "girls that do that are .... and ...". I believe that is judging and being straight up cruel. Other girls don't want to be put down. We all come in this app not expecting to be put down or anything bt it still happens here. I'm sure we all understand eachother in the way that we are all very hormonal and sensitive. People should just think things over before saying them.

myheartbelongstojc

Wow how did you know? I did not see the comment on "girls who do that are...and..." but the whole discussion was pretty much on how abortions are sad and wrong if you feel otherwise because your experience i don't think you should have even of got on there if you weren't trynna start problems for yourself lol but yes judgment is wrong and there are some very hormonal pregnant women on these boards. I can say so myself i am very opinionated especially when im bored at work with nothing to do but that's what this discussion is for. I like seeing everyones different opinions

elle_baby

Idk Just took a guess since that's the only post I just seen with some judgemental people. That wasn't said I jst didn't know that exact words bt for example some girl wrote that girls that do that are f**** up and have no remorse. Then others saying other things. This has nothing to do with me it has a lot to do with just passing judgment period. So it wasn't even me trying to start problems for myself or else I would of been rude on that post. Lol like I said there is nothing wrong with having ur own opinions it is obviously what the discussions on here are for but there is a line that shouldn't b crossed and the discussions on here aren't to put others down.

myheartbelongstojc

Yes mam you are right. i think posts should stick to pregnancy people are making a big deal on the abortion post makes me angry it just a post no need to get out of hand we are mothers we should be mature. What do you think about that?

elle_baby

That's why some of us shouldn't act like children by stirring things up by being "cruel". We all have strong opinions when it comes to certain things and the mature thing to always do is to not past judgement right or else of course people like me will speak up and say what's right & what's wrong but of course without acting like kids and saying it in cruel ways and ways that can be judgmental :-D

SheridanLM1991

I agree, we all need to be mature with our opinions. We're all here to celebrate a very special time in our lives, but also share our concerns and fears and we need a safe environment to do so. We should all be able to know what's appropriate to say and what's not appropriate to say. If you do not like a topic in a post, then simply do not respond to it, especially when you have no idea on the subject yourself and you are just trying to impose your beliefs on someone who is seeking genuine advice. For example, I won't openly rant on about something to do with abortions or miscarriages since I have no experience with them. But that is just me. I hope people can keep it friendly, since as a whole I have enjoyed talking on this forum and believe people try to give good advice if they can. sorry for the rant, just thought I'd put it out there.

elle_baby

I had my own experience with it bt haven't fully put in my 2 cents because no matter what the situation was people still judge. I didn't write anything negative on that other post because were not here for that so I vented here on my own post without being mean just saying how I feel. Its hard because like u said we are here to share our concerns and fears and I just wish we can do it somewhere freely without the fear of being judged. Only because certain people don't talk about their life story, what they have gone through doesn't mean they haven't been in a situation like that. Some just know what the outcome will be. Its okay lol I don't mind listening. I know I love this app just hope people are more sensitive towards others peoples feelings.

lovingmybabyboy

So true

elle_baby

b-(

wallieheadbaby3

This is a great topic and well said. It's just so simple to ignore the things u don't like then to spend so much energy bashing others. I hope everyone can come to this simple agreement.

elle_baby

Like can we all just get along lol.