i couldnt do it
My friend has a son that has extreme behavior issues. I guess their insurance doesn't cover all the things he needs so she signed him over to the state so he can be in a group home to help with his behavior issues...counselling, meds, ect. To me it seems that she didnt try every step before signing him over. She didn't try to appeal Medicaid, to get him labeled a disabled ect. I'm sorry but I would go into extreme debt paying for lawyers to get him considered disabled before just giving him away. I understand that they couldn't give him what he needed but it just bugs me that they didnt try every route before giving him up. And when talking to her about it she seems a little upset but she also seems relieved. My son is friends with her son and I had to explain to him that he won't be able to spend the night or hang out anymore...he just doesn't get the concept that he won't be living with his parents anymore...I'm kinda glad he doesn't understand it so he doesn't ever have to worry about me giving him up.
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@babyinblack682 I agree I think it hasn't sank in yet what shes actually done. Right now it will seem like a vacation but it will eventually hit her that he's not coming home for good.
@vtmamajuju any way I look at it I just can't figure out how being in a group home with strangers is better for him than people that love him and know him and have the patients to handle him.
@excitedforoctober I agree...this could have and should have been handled in a completely different way.
To get a child "labeled" typically goes through the public school system, not medicaid, and it is a LONG process..generally on average 9 months for full evaluation and iep's done thru the school. And even after that nothing just falls into place lickey split due to over worked case workers and non stop budget cuts.
Depending in his problems, the group home may not help especially now that there wont be any "family" for counseling sessions. Plus group homes and other residential type places aren't how they used to be. Years ago a child could go in till 18-24 years of age, now a days its pretty much 2 years max
I wont say I don't have a problem with their decision but I understand it.