Somebody's Lying... and I Hate Liars.

bigtalkingtori

So today, I get in the shower. Notice something a bit off. The brush I use to wash my face is... brown?

It's supposed to be clear... not brown.

The cap isn't on it. It's sitting on another shelf. The brush is always where it is, hanging in a slot on another shelf.

So.. I can't wash my face. I didn't grab a washcloth... cool! I just washed my face and it still feels like crap.

So I get the thinking... I live with my BD and our roommate (a guy).

I don't think BD would have done anything to it... it looks like it was used to scrub the toilet. And then some.

I think our roommate knows something about it. So I finish up, get dressed, and knock on his door.

First I asked if he knew about the brush I was talking about. He said no. I tried to describe it, and said it was dirty and gross and I was wondering if he knew about it. He said, "No, did it fall down? I only use a washcloth..."

So I said, okay. I sighed, and I went downstairs...

Later, I was talking to BD and asked about it. He thought it was a clarasonic I have. I explained it was just a regular brush with bristles that hangs up. He knew the brush I mentioned. But didn't know about it being dirty. I believed him.

So I flipped out that someone was lying, and that I was pissed off because the brush that I use to wash my face looks like it was used to scrub someone's ass.

Yes, I really said that.

So... shit's gonna hit the fan. I have been crazy hormonal this week. Even if it "fell out" of the slot (there's no way... I would have to flip the shelving unit upside down if I wanted to knock it out), someone put it back. So why not be honest and tell me about it.

What the hell! Our roommate has been driving me BEYOND CRAZY. What a lowlife jerk. I have a thread in the vent section for pet peeves if anyone wants to brush up on him and his fantastic-ness.

Any advice? I could pull my hair out right now.

survivormommie3

i would straight up tell the roommate if he knows something about it to tell you NOW before you decide to "find" someone's toothbrush that "fell"

jess8d

Its a brush... throw it out and get a new one.. no reason to get upset about it.. sorry.... or use a wash cloth .. talk to hubby and see if ya can get a new roommate...

soon2b3

@survivormommie3 nice!

Better yet turn his toothbrush brown and wait for him to ask about it

kara_lamek

@jess8d I think that's a bit harsh.


@bigtalkingtori one of my room mates used my toothbrush to clean their shoes nobody admitted to it till I did some investigating. It was there in the morning and then at night it was gone. I was pissed cuz I couldn't brush my teeth! I know how you feel. Plus one of them used my loofa... that's freaking gross.

nicoleok87

I'd say ur freakin out a bit too much babe!!! But then I don't know Wut else he's done so......?

kara_lamek

It feels like a personal attack.. it's disrespectful.

jess8d

I didn't mean it to be harsh....! U could.... pick up his "tooth brush" and opps it fell into the toilet ... but.. . That's just me.... im sorry it was taken the wrong way.... but if it was ur razor!!! A whole diff story... that's how hep b can be spread.

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Mrs4c

Reminds me of my husband's former roommate that used his electric razor without askiking. The roommate didn't expect my husband to come home and he had it laying out all filled with pubic hair by the bathroom sink. His roommate blamed it on another friend! The friend was a redhead the pubes were black like his roommate and my husband is blonde! My husband was pissed and he's never pissed. My husband told his roommate that if he needed to shave that badly he could have just told him he used it and then just buy him a new one. It was sooo gross!!!!

bigtalkingtori

@kara_lamek that's exactly what it is.

BD and I have been in a huge fight all day. It started with me being late to pick him up. Then this came up. Then all he'll broke loose and now im hanging out at my sisters. I'm just done. I can't take the crap that's been going on for so long. BD says he can't do anything about it cus he "pays rent and he's not his dad."

I don't want to go home but I know I have to. I'm tired of sleeping on the couch and feeling like a pile of crap that never got flushed.

jess8d

But a roommate is suppose to be respectful... not a disgusting ass! @bigtalkingtori

bigtalkingtori

I don't know what to do. I keep thinking I should just leave. I should have to just watch this crap. It's like me trying to sit in a corner and ignore someone scraping a fork on a plate in my ear! Sometimes I wish I wasn't pregnant. I really would just go. But I can't.

I feel so defeated. Can't find a job. Can't move. Can't keep this relationship from crumbling. I feel so useless.

kara_lamek

Im in the EXACT same position as you seriously... im miserable. I stay depressed and upset.. I sleep in the guest room now because I can't stand the heart ache of seeing my bf throw everything away.. I feel like im in prison

kara_lamek

@jess8d I wasn't Trying to be rude either. I had my room mate use my toothbrush when I wasn't pregnant and I was livid.. it's just an awful feeling.. its so personal it's like what the f-word were you thinking you idiot moments lol

bigtalkingtori

@kara_lamek when does it end? I feel like I've tried to fix things a million times and it never works.

kara_lamek

@bigtalkingtori I've been trying for 2 years.. its a never ending cycle. Im at my wits end with him. Its to the point where idc what he does or anything anymore. Im falling out of love with him. I wish I wasn't pregnant sometimes so I didnt have to have him in my life. It's so stressful. Im sorry babe. It really sucks. I can't even fake a smile anymore

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bigtalkingtori

@kara_lamek we still have our moments, but they just get ruined by more stupid arguments. =/

@usmcwifemommy101107 BD approached him about it and he said he didn't know anything still. Whatever. So BD looked at it and said it looked like the same stuff at the bottom of the tub. So it was probably on the bottom of the tub. Nobody will fess to putting it there or picking it up. The cap was off and placed somewhere else. Really annoying when people lie just so they can maybe avoid being disliked for a minute or two.


We were already fighting before we got home, and I decided I didn't wanna be stuck on the couch taking it in the ass anymore so I went to my sister's. While I was gone, we were bickering in text messages cus he was concerned about how he was gonna get to work this morning. I finally decided to come home. He spent like 2 hours cleaning the bathroom. Tub and toilet and sink are shiny again. He says he did it for me, but I didn't ask him to. And we just fought for another 2 hours, until I couldn't do it anymore. I was crying so much I couldn't feel anything anymore. He finally left me alone and went to bed.

He was trying to be sweet to me when he was getting ready for work, and he's been trying to get me to talk whenever he calls me on his breaks.

My head is killing me and my eyes are swollen today.

I kept telling him last night that I didn't feel like his girlfriend or fiancee anymore. I just feel like I'm a burden to him. Another bill he has to pay because I don't have a job. I've been looking, but looking doesn't bring home a paycheck. He just didn't get it. I've been sleeping on the couch for a month now and don't really see things changing.

mandac10

I don't get what kind of brush u use to wash ur face. Im lost from the very beginning! >:D<

bigtalkingtori

@mandac10 for exfoliating.