HELP!!! please...
okay so I have a friend & I trust him very much & his opnions always are what's best for me or in this case my son now I asked him about my situation with struggling to get stuff for my son before he gets here & with everything that's going on with my sons father & how I'm gunna keep supporting my son as he grows... he says for me to be real about the situation & that even though I love my son I really can't afford to support him with no job,no money & very little help I told him that I have already decided to keep him & he said that he feels that that's not what's best for my son he feels that he would be safer & more secure with an adoptive family so I explained to him about the family I had choosen when I first though adoption was my only option he asked me about the couple & I told him they were very nice & I like them very much so then he asked if I trusted them to be good parents to my son & raise him right I said yess I do & he said okay then why would you keep him when you can't give him what they can I said because I love him & he's all I have & I just know he would wanna be with me no matter what he said krystal I love you but those are selfish reasons you can't afford him & if you keep him & some one calls cps cause your struggling really hard he could end up with crazy ppl at least this way you choose them yourself... I know he's right but what should I do I mean I want my son & love him with all my heart but I really can't afford to give him everything he deserves & this couple can... advice please!
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That is just how I feel and ultimately the decision would be yours. Keeping your son wouldn't be easy but I do agree to some extent with the others that it isn't impossible.
Have you considered talking to a counselor or telling your doctor your concerns. I'm also concerned about your well being. Please talk to your doctor at your next appt about your depression.
I wish you the best of luck with your decision.
That being said there are lots of organizations out there that could help you. You just need to motivation and determination to jump through their hoops. Good luck on what ever you decide.
Also you can cloth diaper. My mom was poor and that's what we did. Babies aren't too edxpensivem cloth diapers and breastfeeding keeeps them covered. But its a lot of work.
There is a lot more to consider than how much you want to keep him. I don't think the majority of people who give their child up for adoption do it lightly or really want to do it, but sometimes, it really is the best decision. And I'm not saying flat out "no you can't keep him" but you can't choose it based on emotions. You have to look at the reality of how things are.
If you have already chosen an adoption agency, do they offer support or counseling for you during the process? Have you spoken to someone at Job and Family Services about what kind of help you will be able to receive and what kind of money you'll still need to come up with outside of your assistance? These are the kinds of things you need to be focusing on, so no matter what you choose, you'll know you made the best decision.