Is it wrong to not want your SO to have female friends?
I've been having a situation with my SO, last yr I was unfaithful and now currently we are expecting our third child. This past yr has been rather difficult but we are stil hanging in there trying to work things out. We have been together 11 yrs. Now he insists on having female friends, I really wouldnt have a problem with it if I didnt feel like it was because of what I did that brought this sudden urge. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Now he's saying that I can have male friends but I have no desire to make any new friends or start and start any problems when Im trying to repair the damage Ive already caused. Then these women always having something nasty to say and he pisses me off because he erases all his calls and text messages. He says its because hr doesnt want to upset be or because I overreact but I'm upset because you erased them dummy!!!!! Again I know I messed things up by stepping out and I know trust is very hard to get back but I cant help but feel like all these new friends are going to be nothing but trouble. Am I wrong ladies????????
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@lalalorree if he didnt seem like he was hiding somethinv it wouldnt bother me I know we cant have relationship without trust, and I like you would never do anything to hurt him again its these women I dont trust
@mshahir the same exact thing I said
@podgemarine yes I asked he said that he wants.a socisl life.. Just ask if he would hang out with them and me and he said sure is there some hope
@mandac10 lol dont blame you
@pregoagainyay I feel the same way, I know in my heart that he's not doing s anything but I cant say the same for these so called friends
@smcox thank you I hope so too, I know he's still hurt but making new friends doesnt help our situation in any way
@hayz_baby yes I can honestly say that it is a fear, as to him being umfaithful I dont believe so, also if I never did what I did I know thid probably wouldnt be an issue
There's nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex but when your partner is being shady about it is when its not ok.
I agree with some of the advise above. Y'all should explore counseling to help get your feelings out and the relationship back on track. Regardless of who his friends are, the relationship will fail without trust. Good luck!
@mommylovesparkle
@lalalorree
@mshahir
@podgemarine
@nova
@mandac10
@pregoagainyay
@smcox
@hayz_baby
@akmommy
@laura536
@loveourlittleone
@txmoorekat def looking into speaking with someone but I have to agree that trust is a big part of fixing this problem and thanks I can use all the luck I can get
@txmoorekat def looking into speaking with someone but I have to agree that trust is a big part of fixing this problem and thanks I can use all the luck I can get
My dh just works with women and it makes me nuts. Pregnancy hormones don't help.