@all your support is so reassuring. I feel like I am the crazy one at times bc where I live it is my hubby and his family, so I am only ever subjected to their side. My bfs live a couple hours away too. It gets sad and lonely and then crap like this on top of it. I've been having minor braxton hicks this weekend and she isn't due until Oct 15th! I don't want to stop working yet bc that is my sanity right now being away from them, but if my bp didn't go down over weekend I might not have a choice. my hubby is angry a lot lately, and I know his mother has a lot to do with it, but I am not allowed to say anything.
I hear you! You just need to try and vent as much as possible to get it off your chest and try to get that bp down so she doesn't win! I am working till two weeks before and having about 9 months off and mil can pee off if she thinks she can butt in! Hope your bp goes down x
Gosh! Just tell you're mil that the hospital only allows max 3 people in the room and that you already have your support team ( That's what I'm doing anyway). Hospital told me that I decide who stays in the room with and I told hubby not to go against my wishes about not having his mother in there or else his ass was out too. We know what works for us and have to stick to our guns. Good luck hun! Lay down the law!
***Update on health*** So ended up on hospital again w high bp, kept going up unless I was lying down on left side. 162/92 was max before they had me lay down instead of sitting up. But they have me returning to work tomorrow morning. O_o does that make sense? It has been high since Friday and they had me on bedrest all weekend but now just go back to work and I feel more like crap after this weekend than before. Don't get me wrong, I didn't want to be out of work yet, but I'm just confused.
@angieahrens follow up Sept 2nd. If I have any complications I'm supposed to go to ER. seems the only time I ever have issues is when my primary OB is out sick or on vacation
@angieahrens thank-you, they gave me nothing to monitor my bp at home or work. They want me to take it easy... But going back to work for me means three hours in DC traffic for 12 hours commuting and working. That isn't taking it easy to me... But what do I know, I think I'm just another dumb pregnant woman to them. I just have to keep being everything will be ok. Baby has great scores, so maybe unless she is in distress they aren't worried about me?
your mil is being selfish and needs a reality check that u and ur husband have ur own lives!! I would still have my mother present if i were u....y should ur mom miss out on her daughter giving birth? just bc of some ignorant hag? I dont think so!! [-X And y havent u told her off yet? I know that by now im sure i would have exploded....And your hubby?.......hmmm he needs to cut the cord with his mommy just like he will for u and ur guys' baby!!! Ugh im sorry but thats irritating to me! My mil used to b that way (not to that extent) but i finally had to put my foot down with both hubby and mil, now its all better for the m,ost part. If all else fails then %-(
@mamato2boys unfortunately, they feel I am being unreasonable. I don't want to go off on her for a few reasons, I don't want to confirm in their heads that this is bc of hormones (i hard that, she's being a biotch and I'm the hormonal one?). Then of course the whole starting a war with living too damn close to them. its just a mess. BUT, I guarantee this, I am not backing down. She will not be in the delivery room. She has made it clear to me on several occasions that I am NOT her daughter and I do not get to think she is. So why should I give her any special treatment like I would my Mom? It is lisping me off that she is harassing my husband about it thinking I will give in to him. Not going to happen. Like I am going to forget how mean she has been to me all year in the next month? Or because she is keeping her distance for the last couple weeks I will mistake that for her being nice? Give me a break. The sad thing is my husband is Not a need to cut the apron strings type of guy. He has always been neglected in favor of his two sisters. He was an oops baby ten years after them and they only ever wanted girls. We live the closest to them, but they go out of their way to spend time with their daughters. Last year we saw them maybe 4 times the whole year, this year because the baby and it is a girl, they are so far up our butts it is ridiculous. They don't even feign interest in him. So they neglect him and want to have my baby all day everyday and for me to go back to work bc they did (hubby was raised by his grandma)? F that. I'm standing up for my right to be my baby's mommy and it starts with the delivery room.
You go girl!!! Your sang right it starts with that room. And YOU decide who's gonna be in it. I had a friend demanding to be in the room, me telling her no wasn't good enough so I scheduled my induction date, went in to have my son, and told her the next day that she could come see him if she wanted. (She never showed) while in the hospital my mil started in on wanting to be in the room as well. I flat out told her no. Then she stood outside the room after being told not to by my Dr. And after being asked twice to go to the waiting room she was escorted there by a nurse. but she and her sister made their way back outside my room and busted in when they herd my sons first cry. I then had them escorted OUT of the hospital. Expecially since the biotches shoved my dad who was pacing up and down the halls. if there is a next baby I'm putting my foot down and they aren't invited to the hospital period!!!!
O and by the way I had my mom husband and my baby sister (who I told, right in front of my mil, that if she wanted she could be the 3rd and FINAL person in the room for delivery).
Just tell her no, and have your mom there to help support you. You will be the one in labor, not anyone else. Tell her how its going to be and there is no other option. This is your body and your baby!!
Im sorry I can't read all of this but I have the giff... have who u want un that room its ur body ur vadge going to be exposed ur doing all the work its ur say who's in there or not. No one elses and be worried about u and baby not making people happy. Screw um
well they sound like total idiots now theyre going to decide to be in your guys' lives? I would put her on that "black list" @ the hospital so that she doesnt try to be slick and show up in there and if u want your mother there then so be it! U do not have to explain to no one on y one mother is in there n the other isnt......your mother and your husband are there for u and the baby and this other hag is only in it for herself (by the sounds of it) Your mother shouldnt miss this opportunity to be with you just bc the other lady is gna try to ruin it! That is your mother!! Like she reminded u before about u not being "the daughter" then y should she be in there to begin with? ugh! She sounds like an extemely pain in the ass! Take it easy @jellybelly1015 and luck! %%-
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So ended up on hospital again w high bp, kept going up unless I was lying down on left side. 162/92 was max before they had me lay down instead of sitting up. But they have me returning to work tomorrow morning. O_o does that make sense? It has been high since Friday and they had me on bedrest all weekend but now just go back to work and I feel more like crap after this weekend than before. Don't get me wrong, I didn't want to be out of work yet, but I'm just confused.
BUT, I guarantee this, I am not backing down. She will not be in the delivery room. She has made it clear to me on several occasions that I am NOT her daughter and I do not get to think she is. So why should I give her any special treatment like I would my Mom? It is lisping me off that she is harassing my husband about it thinking I will give in to him. Not going to happen. Like I am going to forget how mean she has been to me all year in the next month? Or because she is keeping her distance for the last couple weeks I will mistake that for her being nice? Give me a break. The sad thing is my husband is Not a need to cut the apron strings type of guy. He has always been neglected in favor of his two sisters. He was an oops baby ten years after them and they only ever wanted girls. We live the closest to them, but they go out of their way to spend time with their daughters. Last year we saw them maybe 4 times the whole year, this year because the baby and it is a girl, they are so far up our butts it is ridiculous. They don't even feign interest in him. So they neglect him and want to have my baby all day everyday and for me to go back to work bc they did (hubby was raised by his grandma)? F that. I'm standing up for my right to be my baby's mommy and it starts with the delivery room.