I need your oinion (NPR) plz i need answers a lil confused

E_N_J

So here it goes my husband and me have been togethersince 2005 and when me and him hoked up he had a baby and the mom was living with him and well let's jst say he left his baby mamma for me well all 2005 thru 2010 me and her hated eachothers gut me cause when hewould try to se his daughter she said u chose her be with her and leave my daughter alon bla bla bla and I understnd of corse but still I had to be on te hubby side ok so any ways in aug of 2010 she really needed help I offered to babysit and well she agreed and we became realy good friends and really close I mean we were kinda like bf now is that weird I mean she has her man and all we go shopping she ask for advice u know like ifthe past never happened but when ppl ask o how do you guys know eachother we tell them andthey give us these weird look like wow and then tell me keep ur friends close but ur enemies closer andim al it is not even like that idk is it weird is it bad that me and her are soo cool idk just wondering what do y'all think ot that it would change the fact thbat me and her are cool but id like to know

mrs_shu

Weird maybe lol bad absolutely not..that's most blended families dream to all get along (maybe minus the shopping lol). Those people need to understand its not about keeping your enemies close its about making the best environment and atmosphere for the kids.

E_N_J

@ mrs_shu I completly agree that's what I was aming fr u know she benifited case it was free baby sitting and I benifited cause I got to see my step daughter everyday and idnt have to wory about who watched her orwhere she was yea we go shopping out to eat clubs well clubs not since I got prego but yea we went to the clubs together I am teling u we ere like bff and idk sum say o god others say she jst want to get cloe to ur man and then there the ones that say she guna kill u lol it really maks me lol

lyndsay1983

I think its nice that you can be like that, if you feel you should be on your guard then be that way, BUT if you feel you can trust her then dont let others comments change how you feel about her... Maybe your now friends because God knew she needed someone who can understand and support her and that seems to be you. I think its lovely and your a wonderful person for stepping up to the challange :-)

E_N_J

Actually @ lyndsay1983 that was my intention to help her out I yea. Our past is like very sticky like one day I was at her apartment and she was shoing me a scrap book and in tose pictures tere where sum of my husband and her she immediatly closed it and apologized I told her look I don't care if u have pics of him I mean y'all have to had been tofether because y'all have a baby together she said yea but I don't want to be disrespectfull I said yea it get me jelous but let's be honest were adults and I mean what can we do about it he screwed u he screwed me I'm over it. She was shocked lol but we talk about it I just end it on a note basically saying look ur never guna know the whole true story and niether am I the only person that realy know is my hubby and like if he is ever gunna tell me the straight truth lol

misskristin

I wish I could say that my exhusbands girlfriend and I could get along like that, but she outright interferes with the relationship between my son and myself. It's like her and my ex are under the impression that they can just erase me from his life. We have joint custody right now because he blocked my move away, even though he will not be living in Cali for the rest of our sons life. Ugh...I should took him through the ringer when we divorced. lol

momma_erica

I think that is great since there are kids involved! When ur family is blended (mine is too) its better for the kids that everyone can get along. A child looks to there mother for safety, guidance, and trust their parent to direct them in the right direction. If the children observe u & mom friendly with each other it will only strengthen ur relationship with ur step child. I think it is a very positive situation for all of u

E_N_J

@ momma_erica yea me and my step daughter have a really tight relationship she calls me mommy and when me and her real mom r together I become mommy julie and she is momy haha swear ppl belike are yal together lol

momma_erica

Lol that's funny! My bd ex tried to get their daughter to hate me at first. Once she realized it was driving a wedge between him & his 12yr old daughter she stopped her BS. We r not friends but treat each other respectfully & have a civil relationship. I think she still has feelings for him so its hard for her to get passed another woman n his life & n her daughters life. his daughter has gotten close with my son now & all his cousins so she wants to come every weekend. So in the past few months seems like the situation keeps getting better & better thank God lol

E_N_J

@mommaerica yea hopefully it does sometime it crosses my mind like what if she still love like him u know I never let my gaurd down ever cause after all she a female and well I don't trust any female at that butsh is a pretty cool person once I got to know her and all as for her daughter yea me and her and all of my kids they are all really close

baileygoose

I think it's wonderful!

lae3

its a lil odd .. but i think its a good thing.. id feel better leaving my child with a friend than some woman i dont know.. and well i will say the rules are lil different with her.. but i think its a good things and probably going to be great for the children to see the way you two interact.. it would be nice if all blended familys could at least get along .. for the sake of the children.. so you could still continue to do functions, and holidays a lil easyer on them.. good job girl

mommy2b1111

That's great! But I couldn't do it !