ANybody ever felt this way???

so ive always felt like my mom picked favorites with her kids. and her favorite has always been my sister. she say
s she tried to decipline us the same way but that never worked for example last year she diconnected my phone for 2 weeks cause i was trying to work things out with my ex when we were havinga fight. well my sister KEYED a car got her phone taken away for a week wasnt allowed to hang out with the girl she did it with and wasnt allowed to go to home coming... My aunt gave me a queen size bed when we moved in to her house. It was 5 yrs old and the mattress has pee stains from her husband who wet the bed when he got drunk well my sister just got a brand new queen size mattress but idc aboutthat the part i care about is that its a memory foam mattress.. and we were really close this summer when my sister was in new york visiting family for 5 weeks but now that shes home im the one that gets the boot. I creat extra bills and im the needy one. yet she wants to get everything for my baby. when me and my mom get to talking about baby stuff my sister gets all pissy and says im so tired of the stupid baby. MY BABY ISNT DUE FOR 23 MORE WEEKS!!!!!! what is she going to do when the baby gets here. Ive tryed to make her a part of the baby and everything i invite her to drs appointments ive asked her if she wants to be in the delivery room and its all a no. and when she does go shopping she thinks she knows everything just because when she was in ny the family member she stayed with has 2 well now 3 under 3 but she thinks she knows what I "need" for my baby. the thinks im stupid for getting a breast pump in case im not able to breast feed. Her words were why waist money when you dont even know if your going to be able to breast feed.... i guess im just complaining but it really hurts me when my mom picks favorites. when my sister isnt around were good but as soon as my sister comes in the room or some thing i get kicked to the curb. like the other day we were going shopping and she turns around to my mom and says when can the 3 of us go some where together meaning her my mom and my youngest sister. im 18 and 15. I guess its cause im depressed that i notice this more but i am still really uspet.... thanks for everybody who reads this... :/

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  • Wow, that's ridiculous. How old is your sister? 15 you said? She sounds like a spoiled brat.

    Since you've offered her to be a part of your pregnancy and she's turning you down... Maybe you should try some reverse sociology and act like you don't want her to be apart of it. Not saying to be rude to her but just stop offering her things, stop talking about it, don't ask her opinion(even small things like colors). Just plain out make it seem like you're not interested in her being apart of the pregnancy anymore. Maybe she will get jealous and start feeling differently about the situation. Or, if you haven't already, have you told her about how the way she's been acting is making you feel? I know she's 15 and immature but sometimes it helps. And sometimes you just have to take a stand, take initiative and just plain out be a b!tch.

    I've learned throughout the years, being apart of a 6 child family (2 older sisters & 3 younger brothers) that sometimes it's just best to be independent. Show that you can do things on your own - whether it be cleaning without someone asking you to do it or eating alone. I even kept some distance with the people I was living with till they realized that I needed to be treated better. The silent treatment has worked for me many times! Lol.
  • I also didn't get along with my older sister till she moved out. We hated each other until she stepped out that door and now we're like best friends.
  • @2ndbutfirst ive tried she just yells and says shes not and to not question her parenting again.
  • Sounds like she wishes she had a baby coming. Maybe she thinks with the baby, your mom will be closer to you. I would also ask how does being around a baby make her an expert? If thats all it takes, being around babies, guess I am too. So is she 18 or 15? That confused me.
  • @oregonmama yeah i get paying more attention to the problem child but she can do nothing wrong.. she could murder sombody and get away with it. like i said she keyed a car and got a slap on the wrist... she just got a referal for calling a girl a bitch and my mom said okay.
  • @pinkigirl she is 15 im 18. i live on my own but im at my moms quite a bit untill lately cause i didnt have a/c and i live in florida but now im at my house most of the time.
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  • @pinkigirl she could care less about the baby i ask her how she feels and she says i dont care or whatever. she has made it clear that she thinks im dumb for getting pregnant at 18 but oh well what can i do. she would reather be out with her friends then worrying about a baby.
  • @eskarne_339 she is a spoiled brat. I try to ignore the and then im asked whats wrong and why im so upset... im so upset cause i have nobody to talk to. and I have moved out and i think things were almost better when i lived in the same house.
  • @marinesangel i really hate it im at he house right now and everybody is gone... so im sitting here crying...
  • Don't cry sweetie! I know she doesn't want a baby but she is worried that she won't have your mom as much cause mom will want to be with you. Chin up & remember this, it will make you a better mom.
  • My mom was the same way. I love and miss her too death, but I feel like my younger brother got all the attention. Growing up I was made to clean the whole house and brother didn't have to really help at all. Also he would do something really bad and never got in trouble. My dad wasn't allowed to disipline my brother. It was very unfair. But on the other hand I Was a daddies girl. My dad treated my brother differently because he wasn't into sports and because my mom protected him. But my mom also had a problem connecting to all her daughters.
  • no my mom will be to busy with her new son. she did the samething with my wedding she made it about her. every time we went to try on my dress she had to try on a dress... every thing about my wedding was about her. and shes adpoting a little boy with downs syndrom from eastern europe and he will be home just a few months before my babys born so she will be to busy with him... my sister and my mom are always together. i try to do stuff with her and shes to busy or tired. @pinkigirl
  • my dad is a piece of sh!t she walked out when i was 4 but my sister and my step dad are really close cause he takes her hunting and they just get along really good. i try to talk to my grandparents but then they just turn around and tell my mom. the only person im really close with is my aunt and she is 400 miles away and we only talk some times... @stephforever89
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