Advice, family drama. Please help, I'm extremely stressed and overwhelmed *Update*
My mother and grandmother hate my MIL for things that happened a year ago. I called my mom about the baby shower and told her that my husband could get this one place for all day for 50 dollars. Lots of space, lots of tables and chairs, and a kitchen that was remodeled the last year. We get a discount because he worked there. I also said that his MIL would bring some food and stuff.. Well, my mother thinks that they should have seperate showers.. However, my husbands sister is enlisting in the Army and leaves Nov. 6 (this and the baby shower are why we came home). So I dont see a reason why we cant just have them together... NOTE: its mainly my mom who is being mean
I really dont know what to do... I mean is it just me, or is it childish that they cant even get along for 4 hours out of one day? I dont even want to go home anymore... I really dont... I'm extremely stressed and people dont seem to understand thats not okay for me. I'm thinking about doing it myself.... But I don't want to burn bridges with my mother and grandma because I dont want to fight the whole time. Should I just tell my MIL? I mean what am I supposed to say? I really need advice ladies! I'm looking for a semi peaceful resolution that puts as little stress on me and my husband as possible.
This is all taking its toll on me... I mean honestly, there are a LOT of moments where I wish I could just disappear and not exist. I'm extremely depressed and I dont know whats hormones and whats actual depression.. I just want a way out of this mess!!!!
Update:: So, my MIL wanted to throw my husband a diaper party, so I said we should just do it all at once that way his sister gets to be a part of one before she leaves. My family one will be after she leaves most likely. So we are doing seperate ones. Me and my mom fought a lot and I made her cry.... I dont know why she was being stubborn and I was holding a lot back and being as calm as possible! But I think its all settled down now. I just hope they accept that the fight from today is over and dont bring up about how I wanted a joint shower again. My mother absolutely would not budge at all, and said I was ruining it for her. So yeah. We will see what happens I guess. I officially hate my life though! thank god we lucked out with my MIL wanting to throw my husband a diaper party... A few more people wont hurt lol his side isnt nearly as big as mine! I just pray for peace somehow!
I really dont know what to do... I mean is it just me, or is it childish that they cant even get along for 4 hours out of one day? I dont even want to go home anymore... I really dont... I'm extremely stressed and people dont seem to understand thats not okay for me. I'm thinking about doing it myself.... But I don't want to burn bridges with my mother and grandma because I dont want to fight the whole time. Should I just tell my MIL? I mean what am I supposed to say? I really need advice ladies! I'm looking for a semi peaceful resolution that puts as little stress on me and my husband as possible.
This is all taking its toll on me... I mean honestly, there are a LOT of moments where I wish I could just disappear and not exist. I'm extremely depressed and I dont know whats hormones and whats actual depression.. I just want a way out of this mess!!!!
Update:: So, my MIL wanted to throw my husband a diaper party, so I said we should just do it all at once that way his sister gets to be a part of one before she leaves. My family one will be after she leaves most likely. So we are doing seperate ones. Me and my mom fought a lot and I made her cry.... I dont know why she was being stubborn and I was holding a lot back and being as calm as possible! But I think its all settled down now. I just hope they accept that the fight from today is over and dont bring up about how I wanted a joint shower again. My mother absolutely would not budge at all, and said I was ruining it for her. So yeah. We will see what happens I guess. I officially hate my life though! thank god we lucked out with my MIL wanting to throw my husband a diaper party... A few more people wont hurt lol his side isnt nearly as big as mine! I just pray for peace somehow!
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@pawgio I hope it doesnt come down to that, but it might! She wants to plan the shower, she says its not my job. And they probably wouldnt give me addresses of family members if they get mad at me! But I feel like with all the drama I need to take control, just dont know how!