ignorant father

Pookalali

I'm 20 weeks pregnant and the father was always there for me until now. I recently moved into my moms because he can't financially care for me right now so he s been looking for a new, job... So he says.. Ever since I came back home he rarely speaks to me and claims hes either working or sleeping but I notice him online often and he went to a friends house to drink. We are staying forty five minutes away from each other but he had told me he'd come over on the weekends and has yet to show any effort to do so . And I found out the gender of our baby yesterday and he had me text the news to him he didn't call or anything and didn't seem excited at all! He just went back to ignoring me. What should I say or do right now? He gets upset when I try to explain I need his support but I need him to snap into reality he was doing so well when I lived with him. Idk what to do I feel alone. And I've told him this all he says is he's sorry but can't take care of me atm and I understand that but he just doesn't understand how I feel even when I tell him maybe I'm not saying the right things...

Septemberbubby

Sorry to hear that sweety, is this your first baby together? I'm currently 11 weeks with my first an from my experience so far I think its a male thing to act like they don't care but really I think its because they are just as scared as us. But that doesn't give him the right to neglect you an to not even call when you found out bubs sex is horrible. If if loves you and wants to look after you like he says he does then he should show you some respect. We are at a very vulnerable time right now and luv and support is a very important factor in staying mentally strong. You defiantly need to tell him how you are feeling and ask him , are you in this with me ? Hope everything works out ok I'm here if you need a chat , stand up for yaself and don't take his immature crap xxx xxx

Mnbaby3

Let him know you understand if he can't take care of you financially..but you need him to take care of you emotionally. That doesn't cost anything but his time. Find out if he's just afraid of the baby coming or if he's just being an immature ass. If that's the case don't stress over him..just concentrate on you and the baby. He will either grow up or he won't..regardless you can do it with or without him. Good luck hun!