sad news today.....

HUPE23_1

So my sister-in-law found out the babys not alive. She's 5 weeks behind me so she would be 12w she had an apt today and no heart beat and the baby stoped developing around 10w. Now she has to sit around and wait to m/c. .... my question is, is there anyway she can jump start a m/c so she not carring a dead baby around..... its hurting her to know its still in there and she has to just wait for her body to get rid of it..... i don't know what to say to make her feel any better either

casnleslie

Wow! Did they offer her a D/C? I couldn't imagine the hurt she must be feeling.

babybumpers

They should b able to induce her and make her deliver. I miscarried last year at 22 weeks and that is what they did for me...btw I'm very sorry to hear the news. My thoughts r with u guys at this horrible time.

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Omg that is so sad. Do they kno wat caused it?

Newbie_Mum

Its really sad but if I knew it was already dead I would go ahead n have it aborted....

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debs

In my last pregnancy I lost my sin at 33 weeks I had to wait to deliver him its hard and you sometimes hope they are wrong and by some miracle it will change. But after the baby comes out it makes you sad cause all you want is from them to be back in your belly. It's going to be hard but as long as she has a partner and family that are supportive it helps get you through it but after couple months you have sad times

JuliansMommy

I went through the same exact thing. The drs had me going back and forth for a week doing tests and there I was carrying something that was no longer living inside me. It was so hard I told them I wanted it out asap since nothing was coming out and it was emotionally tearing me down. She gave me the option to do the misoproptel which are pills that are inserted into your "v" which causes you to miscarry. I am now pregnant again and hoping everything goes well.

HUPE23_1

They said birth defects are what caused it and they want it to pass naturaly its safer then the abortion part i think i told her to work out hard and maybe it would stress her body out enough to start things........ we were really excited to have them so close together cousins only a month apart i wish i wasn't so far away but now i dont want to say anything about my baby to her or my brother i don't want them hurting anymore then they already are today started out so great to I'm so sick of bad things happening to good ppl

katlilly

There's a great site I found for natural births/miscarriages etc its called
lovenaturalbirth.com
it has great stories and encouragement of different types of miscarriages

katlilly

^^^ there's tips on how to pass the tissue and how to grieve. Its a little strange if you're not open to hippy like ideas. Idk how yo explain what I mean.

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The same thing happened to my bfs cousin they offered to hive her some kind of pill to I guess jump start the mc but she declined and at her nxt appt thy had to giv her the pill and let the baby pass

mamichulaxvida

Omg i knew i shouldnt hv clicked here now my husband is looking me like im crazy bc i just started balln my eyes out..regards to ur sis n law

vette_devil

I am so sorry for your SIL. I can't even imagine how that must feel. I will keep her in my prayers.

HUPE23_1

Thanks y'all

racheljoyb

I had that happend I lost a baby last year at 6 wks but didn't know till 8 wks. She should have a dnc instead of waiting because that wouldn't be fun

HUPE23_1

What's the dnc

ccnum2

Sorry to here the bad news , but it takes about two weeks for you body to miscarry.. this happened to me last march.... I started to spot so I went to the er the could not find the heartb the us showed the baby stopped growing at 9wk and I was 11 when I started to miscarry.... so it should be happening soon..

katlilly

Dilation and curettage its a medical procedure, they go in and scrape and suck out the tissue. Its a matter of choice. I'd rather go through a natural miscarriage than go through a d&c

katlilly

I am very sorry for you to have to deal with this in your healthy pregnancy. I know I've felt awful even telling the 3 close women to me that are preggers that I miscarried. hope the info I've given helps at all...xoxo

HUPE23_1

So its an abortion with a different name

katlilly

Sort of. But miscarriages are called spontaneous abortions...so don't think of it that way

MorgDeeBee

The exact same thing happened to me last year. I was 12 weeks the baby stopped developing at 8 weeks. I had no idea anything was wrong. I had a DnC done 2 days later so that I didn't have to carry the baby because they said it could take weeks for the baby to pass on its own. As far as a I know they are safe so she might want to ask her doctor.

Newbie_Mum

Abortions aren't bad if ur doing it for the right reason, some people do abuse it and that is wrong.

HUPE23_1

But the dnc is the same process right

HUPE23_1

@katlilly i went to that site i sent it to her i hope it helps her but i didn't see and way to get things moving faster for her

Prayin_4_twins

Thoughts & prayers for her & ur family!

luvmyson

Everyone is in my thoughts and prayers...@hupe23_1 I'm sooooo sorry to hear ur families loss, but god has reasons for evrything even if we don't understand them now....can't stop crying long enough to remember what else I was going to say...I'm very sorry I can't imagine what she is going thru

fingerscrossed

@hupe23_1 Technically, a D&C is simply a medical procedure commonly used in cases of heavily menstrual bleeding to resolve the issue, remove excess uterine lining in women with PCOS, or remove remaining placenta after birth that will not pass. However, it can be used as an abortion method, but according to medical statistics, only 1.7% of women and medical clinics use this.

However, since your SIL has unfortunately miscarried, it may be a viable option for her considering the emotional and physical strain she may be placed under if she does not miscarry soon. I am hoping for the best for her and your family, and I will keep all of you in our prayers. I am very sad to hear news such as this; I know how much it affects families, particularly the mother going through it.

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itsaGIRL

I'm so sorry about your sister best wishes for her I know it had to be hard for her.