stepdaughter/ parenting :/ vent
Feeling a little frustrated tonight. I love my 8 yr old stepdaughter but i get so frustrated w/her sometimes. (And my husband _her dad) i feel like she has no discipline mess everywhere, asking is she has to wash her hair when showering then she doesnt brush it. I just feel like im always having to tell her to do everything &friends it makes me feel mean/ bossy. But if her dad doesn't do it who is??? Aryanna is only 7wksa old but i would except certain things from her as well (of course as she gets older) so i know im not treating her anymore different than i would treat my kids/ nieces/ nephews (where all like 2nd parents to each others kids) AND then she always wants him to lay w/ her tilli she falls asleep (i feel like it takes time from our night talks) she doesnt need him any other time when shes @the a sleep over or doesn't ask that from her mom when shes over there. I think part of the it is his fault cause he feeds into it but idk im just frustrated maybe its just that i grew up differently
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I would FLIP. I try not to scold them too much but I cconstantly remind him that this is MY house, even if I'm not their mom. I will not be uncomfortable or disrespected in MY house.
TABLES HAVE TURNED...
Now my kids go to their dads and his girlfriend gets irritated with them. My kids only see there dad every other weekend and the love him so much. She makes comments about how they dress, how they act and how their clingy to their dad.
Ladies... I know being a step parent is hard (been there done that and be Damn I'd go back) but think about if it was your kid. Don't be like me... Karma is a bitch and my ex-husband is dating her!
Now my thoughts about your child coming before your husband... Im christian and jesus says honor your husband/wife before your child (maybe not those exact words) but if you arent on the same page as parents the child will not have respect for either parent... Hope tht makes sence lol