Step parents?
How do you all get through? I'm not married but my BF has two other kids. A girl and boy. I'm at my wits end regarding his daughters mother and daughters behavior. I combed his daughters hair nicely because her hair is always sloppy when I see her. Her mother is accusing me of trying to play mommy because of this. I thought I did something good? Fine. Aside from her mothers antics, he doesn't discipline her for nothing. To put it bluntly she is a 3yo little terrorist around him because she's figured out daddy has no consequence. After a big blow up last night, he's admitted that he "cant bring himself to yell at her," because she is his "baby girl." I refuse to walk on egg shells in my own home because of a bad ass child! He puts his son in check when necessary but his daughter? Laughable. It's been 2 years of this and I can't foresee a change. I feel like I'm going to lose my mind. It's gotten to the point that I distance myself so I won't experience her every 5 minute tantrums from not getting what she wants and him giving it to her no matter how she behaves. If he treated all kids like this, I would feel a different way. I'll be damned if my son gets to her age and he's captain drill sergeant. Wtf do I do. How do step mothers survive? I usually shut up, but last night...the gasket blew.
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I've tried but I always backed down. I don't want him to think I don't like his daughter. I'm afraid sometimes that it comes across that way. I just can't stand her behavior and the fact that he condones it and treats her like a baby. It's ANNOYING. Who wants to live uncomfortably where I have to worry she's gonna throw fits for everything and he comes around, picks her up and kisses her like she did nothing????? BTW, you're lucky... I wish I could move away but then id feel selffish. He would never see her then.
I remember your post... its really a damning situation for me and it would help me so much to have someone who is also experiencing it. I feel so alone about it. It feels like this will be the breaking of our relationship. I can deal with him not cleaning, washing bottles until i tell him, because atleast he does it when i ask but this daughter thing. Its just not a simple... i dont know what more I can say if it is still the same. The first excuse when i brought it up was that she was just a "baby." Ive left him alone for nearly a year now. She's not a baby. I dont know what else I can do. Everytime she comes around, i'm supposed to leave??? it should be like that
I considered it being jealousy 2 years ago. Now, even though she is in another relationship and allegedly pregnant, I thought that crap was over. Apparently not. You're right, I needed to tell him her behavior is unacceptable and I think i have done so to the best of my abilities. I just dont know what more I can say and im to the point of not knowing how much more I can tolerate.
I told him before, you keep letting your son see that he gets in trouble and she doesnt and one day when he is old enough to comprehend, he is going to resent you. He doesnt get it. Im not gonnna sit and wait for him to get it either. I keep telling him he's gonna be alone with his little terrorist that he's creating, because no woman in their right mind is going to put up with that from a child and sit and watch it being condoned.
I would love to tell you it gets better but in my experience it doesnt... Rant over lol
@kayycarter
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My email is I need someone to talk to who knows my feelings. It's so hard...
My fear is to be in the situation your just described but in all honesty I don't feel I'm far from it. It sounds strikingly similar. I don't want to have this be the reason we separate but how much of this can someone really withstand? How much and when is enough ENOUGH?
Our relationship is on the rocks, unless things change I will leave in about 2 months. Im just waiting till we have paid my sister back money we owe before really considering to leave
@kayycarter
I gave the wrong domain for the email! so sorry!