selfish daddy!

Jessandjay

My son Zachary is a little over 2 months old and my boyfriend and I used to live together. After I had zac he was absolutely no help at all and was never home and didn't get the idea of prioritizing his son before his friends. So I moved back in with my mom for the extra help. Its her my step dad and my 5 brothers and sisters so there's not a shortage of help here lol. Mind u its half a block down the St so its not far. So anyways bd and I have decided to move back in together. Well he started his second job today and I only get 15 hours a week at mine since I stepped down from assistant manager after I had zac. My mom works at the casino and has talked to a lady there and I basically have the job I just need to put in an application for background check and what not. Well he I would be working overnight to start so bd would have to get up with zac probably 4 or 5 nights a week. Something I have been the only one doing since he was born! Well he doesn't want me to take work there cause he doesn't want to wake up for 30 mins in the night cause he has to work in the morning. Is it just me or is he being stupid and selfish? Me working over nights would save us a lot of Money so that my son wouldn't have to go to daycare. It seems pretty logical to me..

JsMyOnlyLove

I say he's bein selfish. Gettin up n the middle if the night is part of parentin.

lyndsay1983

Yeah he's being selfish! Why are men so annoying X(

Jessandjay

@jsmyonlylove I'm pretty much the only one doing parenting he's really selfish and since zac was born he's only watched him 2 times and both times zac ended up at jays parents with him not there. So I just decided that if he's gonna end up there anyway ill just take him there before work so his parents can see him more. Well I forgot to add this in there. Jays dad was originally going to watch zac most of the time when I work but he just started a job working 330pm to midnight. My mom works overnight and my step dad works 3pm to 11pm. Jay works from 7 to 3 and was supposed to keep zac while I worked evenings but he got a second job so now I have no one to watch the baby during the day

Jessandjay

@lyndsay1983 idk but they are. They think that just cause were mommy that daddy doesn't need to help

JsMyOnlyLove

O no. I hope he comes around I kno how hard it is to do everythin alone. I hope u can find someone to watch him too. Does ur state help wit childcare?

lyndsay1983

Id start sayin to zac 'do you wanna go see jay' and when he asks why jay and not daddy tell him he can't take the title without the responsibility (sp) harsh maybe but they need to realise we work for our title so why shouldn't they!!

Jessandjay

@lyndsay1983 I should do that he doesn't do/hasn't done anything "daddy like" except probably cut the cord. Oh and carry the car seat most of the time. @jsmyonlylove I have no idea lol

JsMyOnlyLove

U should check jus n case

ExcitedForOctober

VERY selfish...maybe u should have stayed at your moms.

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Junebuggbabie85

I've realized if I call my bf and tell him to go check on the baby hell bitch but do it. Even if I'm just calling from the other room. Unfortunately with selfish fathers you have to force them to act like a daddy but mine is starting to come around a little more. I say take the job and tell him don't ask him to get up with the baby at night.

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brendalou

It's definitely selfish. There are plenty of moms AND DADS that get up in the early mornings with babies. I do it and I work at 8 in the morning. I also got up woth my son when I worked at 6 in the morning. It's a little sacrifice we call LOVE.