how do i tell my family

RaylansMommy1

I just found out Saturday night that I am pregnant with my second child. I have no clue how to tell my family without being judged or getting smart remarks and I know that stress is bad for the baby. I have a 7 month old son already, but I wasn't planning on haveing another baby right now I was taking birth control and using condoms everytime I had sex to be on the safe side bc I wanted my son to grow up a little bit b4 we had another child. I just have no clue how to tell my family all that b4 they jump to conclusions or same something to upset me. I am usually not a sensitive person but this is a very touchy situation. I am married so its not like I am doing anything wrong by haveing sex and it could happen to anyone! Any suggestions on how to tell the family?

Mrz_Jackson

I was the same way my kids was 3years old an 6months old!! an I didn't no how to tell people ! Then I jus told people an whoever sed sumthn I told them I was grown, married an take care of my kids I didn't mean to be rude but I really didn't no Wat else to say to people that tried to say sumthn about it

RaylansMommy1

Its always been hard for me to stand up for myself @Mrz_Jackson2anpreggo and especially since its mostly my husbands family that we r dealing with, they r all smart mouthed and hard to get along with

Mrz_Jackson

Ugh I don't like my hubbys side either ! Jus come out an tell them if they start saying Anythang about it an u don't want to say nuthn bak jus ignore it an brush it off or jus say be happy about it an lie an say it was planned then there not much they can say lol but don't let them make u feel bad

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RaylansMommy1

@Mrz_Jackson2anpreggo I wish it was tht easy his family does not know how to drop anything and they always r looking for a way to make me feel bad or put me down! And @RileyAndMe I wanted a big family but I have no way to support one at the moment we r barely making ends meet with one child I have no clue how we will do it with 2. And I have the same outlook on the whole point of marriage

BabyComingSoon143

Aww, my daughter will be 6 months on the 12th - was due on August 5th and had her on August 12. Now im 14 weeks 2 days due August 6th. So they'll be 12 months apart. :-) I just told my mom... "I had a blood test and it came back positive" lol she didn't flip but didn't act excited either. She said, "A preg test? Well, you'll be 24 with 2 kids.. I hope this is what you want and that you're happy" and said she had to get off the phone. Haha I was like "yeah I'm excited! Bye!" and felt like a burden lifted once she knew. :-D Not sure if I helped but thought I'd share my story. By the way, I'm not married but have been with my fiancé since 2009

Mrz_Jackson

O girl don't let them make u feel bad or put u down u mite have to say sumthn to them so they will stop does hubby say Anythang about it since its his family ? I no my hubby wuld go off on his family I couldn't imagine having to deal wit that

RaylansMommy1

@BabyComingSoon143 ur story did help alot I am 20 and have been with my husband since 2009 also! I told my mother-in-law after much deliberation but she wasn't upset she just looked at me and said well it happens! @Mrz_Jackson2anpreggo yea my husband does go off on his family he is very protective of me and our son but I dnt like to cause problems with his family

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kayleigh27

I was afraid too to tell my family. My husbands family is Mormon so they really into family and whatnot. People are going to talk. And they can say some pretty mean things whether or not they mean to. My mom was just like 'why didn't you tell me sooner?' She was just like you're married so its not like its a bad thing

RaylansMommy1

@RileyAndMe that is absolutely upsetting I wish I knew how to help u out now I am sorry

BabyComingSoon143

@RaylansMommy1 oh, good! Congratulations, by the way. my mom is hyped now after the initial shock. :-P

chelles

Congratulations dear, every thing will work it self out by Gods grace

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Janet_2011

Honestly?? Tell them that you are pregnant.. but you don't even have to tell them. They will eventually notice. And if they say something stupid just tell them to mind their own business. You are a grown women and don't need to give anyone explanations about your life.