i realy dont want to just give up, bit idk what to do...pleas help if u can..**update at bottom**
me and my so have ebn together for almost 6 years. and we have a 5 month old. im 18 and he is 20. we have alwase had an on and off relationship but we have ben together stedy for over a year nowbut i think we are falling apart. im still in school (online classes) i now have a job, and i have a hole house full of a total of 4 guys and me n my daughter i have to cleen up and cook for. so needless to say after a long day of work and cooking n cleaning im rly tired at night. my so dosent work anymore bc he cant hold a job n he never graduated. all he ever has to do is just keep watch of our lo why im at work, but i have evon told him that if he dotn watn to watch her i can get someone elts to.
well lately all we have ben doing is fighting. idk how he is feeling but to me it feels like he dont want to do anything and only pays attencion to me when hes trying to get sex. last night for example i had just worked a 10 hour shift only to come home cook dinner and cleen get out lo ready for bed. he dident do a single thing except watch tv and eat dinner. then after im trying to go to sleep he starts wanting to play around, like wanting me to give him sex. well it got to the point he was trying to force me to and i just told him no and pushed him off me. i had tryed to explain to him that i was tired and wanted to go to bed n thats why i told him no. he then got all mad and sead " well damn how menny nights do i have to begg in advance??" like as if i never give it to him! we have sex almost 6 nights a week most of the time! then he proceeds to tell me that if he had a stripper ( an old joke between us) then he would probly go to her for sex bc he havent done it in 3 nights.. 3 NIGHTS!! THATS IT!
then he leaves our room and gos downstairs n plays on fb.. sending me a msg that he thinks were falling appart.. and when he comes back up he wakes me up trying to get sex AGEN!!
i dont know what to do anymore.. i want more then just a physical relationship but it seems lke thats all im gettting.. btw sorry for the kindofranting and its soo long.i just wanted to explain it all and stuff. pleas help if u can.
well lately all we have ben doing is fighting. idk how he is feeling but to me it feels like he dont want to do anything and only pays attencion to me when hes trying to get sex. last night for example i had just worked a 10 hour shift only to come home cook dinner and cleen get out lo ready for bed. he dident do a single thing except watch tv and eat dinner. then after im trying to go to sleep he starts wanting to play around, like wanting me to give him sex. well it got to the point he was trying to force me to and i just told him no and pushed him off me. i had tryed to explain to him that i was tired and wanted to go to bed n thats why i told him no. he then got all mad and sead " well damn how menny nights do i have to begg in advance??" like as if i never give it to him! we have sex almost 6 nights a week most of the time! then he proceeds to tell me that if he had a stripper ( an old joke between us) then he would probly go to her for sex bc he havent done it in 3 nights.. 3 NIGHTS!! THATS IT!
then he leaves our room and gos downstairs n plays on fb.. sending me a msg that he thinks were falling appart.. and when he comes back up he wakes me up trying to get sex AGEN!!
i dont know what to do anymore.. i want more then just a physical relationship but it seems lke thats all im gettting.. btw sorry for the kindofranting and its soo long.i just wanted to explain it all and stuff. pleas help if u can.
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I think breaking things off might be healthy and your daughter can still see him because if he loves her, he will do all that he can to be in her life no matter what.
Side note: I never completed high school either, but I've managers to hold a job for 10 years, and I do jobs better than some people that do have a diploma or even have graduated college. It's all about wanting to do things...where there's a will, there's a way. He can't use that as an excuse, sounds like he just enjoys being lazy and letting you do everything.
You are the one working. @acw104
It doesn't have nothing to do with them being young, I got married at 19 and I'm 24 and still happily married. It all depends on how mature the people in the relationship are.@LilSugarsMomma
Firstly yes you have a problem which unfortunately isn't going to get any better until HE grows up and decides to be a partner and a father. Right now he is being a sexist dead beat sperm donor. Getting a job with poor education yeah its going to be difficult but it sounds like he doesn't even want to try, in which case he needs to get off his ass and help out.
It looks to me he has a "thats womans work" mentality and thats going to be hard to change.
Secondly you say about the sex issue, well I am lucky if I get it once in 3 weeks and at no point would I ever think of trying to force the issue. Yeah it has caused arguments more than I care to remember but end of the day its called respect. What message is it going to show your lil one in a few years when they learn about sex etc.
End of the day he is being totally disrespectful of you as a partner and a mother which isn't on. I have been with my wife since we were 15 and I am now 30 so age really doesnt matter but he sure as hell needs to grow up.
Good luck and tag me if you need to ask anything.
Lol thanx I think