Tmi: Sex Question...

CristinaLynn

I just had my daughter 7 weeks ago. Hubby and I started having sex 3-4 weeks after I had her, which I've never really waited the 6 weeks besides my first, just waited until I felt comfortable instead, which Dr said was perfectly fine. When we have sex and if he goes too deep, or if we have sex for more then 30-45 minutes it starts to hurt. Like a shock to my body. I thought it was normal at first when we went too deep...but what's worrying me is after so long of sex, even half of him sends a shock to my body. I've never felt that until after I had my daughter. I've always been able to handle no problem him going deeper and us being super rough(sorry for the xtra tmi). Could it be that we're being too rough so early after me having Jayda? Or is there something wrong with my body?

Mrz_Jackson

I was the same way for a few months I thinks its jus cuz its still early

EricaK22

Your body hasn't had enough time to heal completely it sounds like. Take it easy for a few Weeks, and try it again. Or if you're still having the same problem after your 6week pp visit mention it to your Dr.

CristinaLynn

@Mrs_Jackson That's what I was thinking. I haven't ever experienced this before which is why I was a little worried. I've had sex just 2 weeks after birth, and I was fine. Maybe it's because she's my 5th, and I need extra time to heal. This SUCKS haha! @ErickaK22 Dr said everything was perfect, so that's why I was clueless lol. I'm actually going to call in to talk to him just to make sure nothing is seriously wrong, just incase...I'm a bit of a worry wart lol

luvmy5

Was she a bigger baby? Was delivery harder? Sounds like your cervix needs more time to heal before being rough.

tinka1326

I was similar after having my second. After about 3 months we were back to normal... I dont know how you have kids and the energy for 45 min+ sessions though lol

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CristinaLynn

@luvmy5 She was 7lbs 12oz and delivery went perfect. That's exactly it! @tinka1326 My girls go to bed at 8 and Hubby and I go to bed around 11...that's 3 whole hours girl! LOL and to be honest...my drive is so high, even when I'm so exhausted I can't move...it's over when he even looks at me. I all of a sudden get a burst of energy. @HomeBirthAdvocate My cervix is normal, and is back to normal ...But I spoke to a friend and she told me it did the same to her as well for a few months...and it was because her hubby is bigger. He was going too far back. It's never done that with my Husband before I had her, but I think it's that and the fact my cervix isn't healed all the way combined. So it's just a big fat negative x's 2 until I heal completely. I think from now on we're just gonna take it slow. I definetly don't wanna damage anything, yikes!! :-s

luvmy5

Just be careful so you don't hurt yourself. 3 kid-free hours before bedtime sounds GLORIOUS!!! ;-)

CristinaLynn

@luvmy5 Oh yeah, I don't wanna hurt anything. I need those parts!! LOL :-P It is nice...we make it that way so we have time to watch a movie or whatever else for just him and I. We can't really find a babysitter too often that will watch 5 children at once, so we try to just make a little time every night, and then just once in a while for both of us to spend time together. The rest of the time, and weekends are for the girls. It was hard at first to get it like that though...it definetly didn't come easy lol

luvmy5

I understand. All together we have six kids, plus the kids friends, neighbors, nieces, nephews, etc. Things get hectic. I don't thinkI could function kid free or know what to do. So your boy ended up being a girl? I had that happen with my third.

CristinaLynn

@Luvmy5 I know exactly how it is girl...it gets caotic if I let it lol. All together we have six as well. All of the girls will be in school in September, and all I'll have is Jayda, my 7 week old at home. It makes me so sad, but honestly...I think I'm going to end up going crazy lol! Yes, she was a little girl afterall. I'm glad she is though, cause she's so stinking sweet! I still want a little boy...but I am completely happy with my 5 girls(our 6) if I don't have a boy. :-)

luvmy5

I finally got my boy, so there is hope! Just a warning - boys are crazy! Full of energy, have no fear, just silly. This kid is all boy. My youngest girl is super girly. She is 2 1/2. My older three are in between. My oldest is 12, so the teenage years are hitting. Making me crazy (crazier) by the day.

Mrz_Jackson

Yea this was my 3rd an I culd tell I needed more time this time

CristinaLynn

@luvmy5 They are crazy, but they're so much fun lol! I have two conditions to even think about trying again. To own our own home, and for me to finish my degree. Until then it's not even a conversation. @Mrz_Jackson I'm going to have to be patient this time around lol it's gonna be hard, but I have to so I don't hurt anything. Every baby and birth is different. I think I did too much after I had her and my body just couldn't heal quick like it should've.

Mrz_Jackson

Ur braver then me I was Waitn beyond my 6 weeks an was scared

CristinaLynn

@Mrz_Jackson I waited a few months after my first cause I was so scared! I was shaking and almost in tears cause I thought it would hurt lol. It's funny now, but wow was I scared. After that it was fine...I was easy on my body for a while, then eventually went completely back to normal. I've heard of women having sex the same week or even just a few days afterwards. I didn't even want anything to do with it the first 2 weeks lol

Mrz_Jackson

Omg the same day o no yea I can def tell a diff i was fine after my first an now after my 3rd I still feel really sensitive an tense up our poor poor bodies lol thank god I'm done for years to come !

Mrz_Jackson

Well I meant a few days after there's nooo way ouch !

CristinaLynn

@Mrz_Jackson I know right lol. I couldn't do it.

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CristinaLynn

@HomeBirthAdvocate It's all the way back to normal. My cervix is pretty far back though, even my gyn/ob has trouble getting to it sometimes. Idk why it's like that. :-s

tinka1326

My 2 are in bed by 8 (have 2 step kids also and when we have them they are snoozen by 8 too) but my fiance works split shifts and has a very physical job he gets home 8.30-9 and wants to eat shower and sleep... I want to have more sex but he is just so tired all the time :-( I get quickies through the week and a reasonable session on weekends... Havent had a marathon in about a year.... I miss them :-(

CristinaLynn

@tinka1326 Have you tried mornings? Morning sex is great!!! When my now 3 year old would fight us for bedtime, we really didn't have any time to even have a shower together...so we started making just an hour in the mornings for ourselves before they all woke up. We would(sorry for tmi) do our thang thang when we woke up, go have coffee together and then the girls would wake up. Quickies are good too, but I agree, once in a while you just need that luxury of being intimate for longer then 15 minutes lol. To get him in the mood for night though...shower together. That always get my hubby lol! MAJOR TMI WARNING!! Another thing you could do, and sorry for the language but most men like it when your dirty...and tell him as SOON as he walks through the door something like "go take your clothes off and get in the shower cause you're f*cking me good tonight" I bet you anything he'll be in that shower within 2.5 seconds and forget that he needs to eat lmao!! ;-)

tinka1326

He sleeps like the dead so trying to wake him in the mornings before kids are up wont work he would rather sleep lol... We just moved house and our shower is freakishly tiny so it's almost impossible to shower together... Tried the straight in the door attack but he is so tired he isnt really motivated by dirty talk. He is unfortunately one of those people that have sex when they want it or not at all. If I manage to change his mind then it's shit cos I know he doesnt really want it. He is working on it and it's better than it was... But I have a high sec drive and once maybe twice a week just ain't doin it for me