Never once have I regretted my children nor will I ever. I was young but that doesn't change anything. If I waited I wouldn't have the same children I have today. My kids are my everything.
I understand how a parent would say that. At your weakest moment you say things you don't mean. Frustrations and emotions are flying. When my daughter, who is 11, mouthed off to me(one of the many times lol, but that time was just all bad) I told her that she's lucky I'm not like my Dad, because I would have gotten a belt and whooped her butt by now. Of course I wouldn't to it...but I was frustrated, she wouldn't listen, was talking over me and she pressed my buttons. I love her to death and I wouldn't ever whoop her butt with a belt...but it came out in me being pushed to the edge. Maybe your sister had a severe moment of weakness. She was stressed out to begin with, emotional and just mentally not okay at that moment. I've said a lot of things I didn't mean when I was upset. But, going that extreme is a sign of constant stress, maybe even depression and she needs support...all the support she can get. Talk with her and ask her what happened for her to say something like that? Sometimes all it takes for you when you're that stressed is just to cry on someones shoulder. :-)
Yea so we talked and she says that she loves her so much but just wished she had time to be herself first before being a mum. She is so scared she says now the real parenting starts now. I told her with comments like that she will push her girl to act out and find love and acceptance in the wrong places.
@chelles... hell no I dont regret having my kids and lets just say I did, I wouldnt say any shit like that to them.
My 19 year old daughter gives me the freaking blues. Mouthy, snappy and has a bad case of "Diva fever" I've ever seen. I'm damn near had to choke the girl. Well not really put my hands on her but in my mind I was choking the living daylights out of her... lol but in reality I didnt do a damn thing.. LOL
Your sister needs to stop and look at the situation for what it is. SHE most likely created the little beast... just like I did. I think sometimes when youre a single mother and youre young you tend not to be the BEST at motherhood as you COULD BE. I'm not saying youre not a good mother... just not the best that you can be.
Not being patient, giving your child time, being attentive and also being a GREAT rolemodel you can create a little beast that when they turn 13 years old you'll want to mentally choke them out as well.
Comments
I know when my parents got a divorce my dad said it was our fault that they got one... :-<
My 19 year old daughter gives me the freaking blues. Mouthy, snappy and has a bad case of "Diva fever" I've ever seen. I'm damn near had to choke the girl. Well not really put my hands on her but in my mind I was choking the living daylights out of her... lol but in reality I didnt do a damn thing.. LOL
Your sister needs to stop and look at the situation for what it is. SHE most likely created the little beast... just like I did. I think sometimes when youre a single mother and youre young you tend not to be the BEST at motherhood as you COULD BE. I'm not saying youre not a good mother... just not the best that you can be.
Not being patient, giving your child time, being attentive and also being a GREAT rolemodel you can create a little beast that when they turn 13 years old you'll want to mentally choke them out as well.