Just got to get this off my chest
Pardon the pun but do need to off load a little!!
When I decided to try & bf, I was honestly worried how I'd manage when out, would I cope if anyone commented etc. what I never thought I'd have to deal with was crap from family & friends even if it was well intended but misinformed, this is some of what I've had to deal with:
In the very beginning when bf wasn't going so well, I had to put up with people telling me to ff, I'd tried my best & why struggle?
Then it was why don't you get some formula & bottles in just in case? & when I wouldn't telling my partner to
Followed by how tired I look, why not give a bottle at night so I can have a break.
& ooh if he's feeding that often, your body will struggle to keep up with his demand & your milk won't be that good or you're not making enough.
Still not sleeping through? Give him formula or shouldn't he be on solids by now?
I'm not bashing anyone who ff's, I just wish people who should, would support me & not try to make me feel I'm doing the wrong thing by me & my son. Whenever he gets checked, I'm told he's thriving, he's in the 91-95% for weight & height, others comment on how bright & advanced he seems. Yeah he doesn't sleep great (has slept through a couple of times only) but who's to say he'd be any different on formula? I might still be up as often but with the added task of making up bottles. Bfing isn't easy, there have been times in the middle if the night I'd have loved to kick my oh & tell him its his turn to get up or let grandparents have him for a night, but, this stage isn't going to last forever & I'd be disappointed in myself if I gave up now because of others & anyway I'm sure they'd just find something else to tell me I'm doing wrong instead!!!!
Woo felt good to get that out :-D
When I decided to try & bf, I was honestly worried how I'd manage when out, would I cope if anyone commented etc. what I never thought I'd have to deal with was crap from family & friends even if it was well intended but misinformed, this is some of what I've had to deal with:
In the very beginning when bf wasn't going so well, I had to put up with people telling me to ff, I'd tried my best & why struggle?
Then it was why don't you get some formula & bottles in just in case? & when I wouldn't telling my partner to
Followed by how tired I look, why not give a bottle at night so I can have a break.
& ooh if he's feeding that often, your body will struggle to keep up with his demand & your milk won't be that good or you're not making enough.
Still not sleeping through? Give him formula or shouldn't he be on solids by now?
I'm not bashing anyone who ff's, I just wish people who should, would support me & not try to make me feel I'm doing the wrong thing by me & my son. Whenever he gets checked, I'm told he's thriving, he's in the 91-95% for weight & height, others comment on how bright & advanced he seems. Yeah he doesn't sleep great (has slept through a couple of times only) but who's to say he'd be any different on formula? I might still be up as often but with the added task of making up bottles. Bfing isn't easy, there have been times in the middle if the night I'd have loved to kick my oh & tell him its his turn to get up or let grandparents have him for a night, but, this stage isn't going to last forever & I'd be disappointed in myself if I gave up now because of others & anyway I'm sure they'd just find something else to tell me I'm doing wrong instead!!!!
Woo felt good to get that out :-D
Comments
@natashalynn that's how I see it too & man I struggle to do chores already without giving myself more to do!!!
@newmomma13 I don't think they know just how much it gets to me & I hate confrontation so mainly just try to ignore. Think mil genuinely cares, she tried bfing had no support, lack of info & couldn't do it
@heyitsme my oh is the only one who's not suggested ff, he doesn't really care how I feed as long as its me doing it!!!
@kristaf22 thanks!!!! Have read your posts & wish I had some words of wisdom, if you find a solution please please tag me xxxx