im so stressed out. just need to vent

andrea1stbaby

So my husband and I live with his mom and step dad. His sister just moved out so we are left with the cable and internet bill we have all the hbo and on demand channels so the bill is a lot. It would be fair if my husband and i even had cable or internet the room we stay in has no cable and we have no computer everyone else in the house has cable and internet except us so idk why we are stuck with the bill. We have a baby on the way we are living off my husbands paycheck wich is nothing in this economy we have our phone bill to pay. His truck insurance.which we are trying to save up for a new vehicle because his truck is only two seater and we can't have a two seater with our baby. We buy our own groceries because no one else buys food that I can actualy eat and when I buy food I can eat everyone else eats it.we are trying to pay off his credit card bill we can't afford to have another bill added on. I understand they are letting us live here blah blah but why do we have to pay the bill that doesn't even have anything to do with us if it were up to me we wouldn't have cable and internet. Sorry for blabbing and complaining idk if anyone else is having a similar problem but I just had to get it off my chest because my husband doesn't understand or listen to me.

jbaby

I completly agree! I would try to get out of there asap! That's not fair your paying their bill and feeding them! I had a problem like that...me and my bf moved into his parents old house (they have 2...the one they first bought and rented to one of my bfs sisters and the one they live in) and his friends kinda moved in with us without even asking...at first we didn't care then we found out I was pregnant so we told them they had till the baby got here to find another place well while they were here the ate all my food that I bought cause I had morning sickness really bad that I couldn't eat much and left their dirty nasty dishes for me to clean! And left all the lights on and the tv running like all night! And didn't even help pay the bill plus they thought we were their personal limo service and didn't help pay for gas...well let's just say the baby still isn't here but they got kicked out like 3 months ago

andrea1stbaby

@jbaby I would move out if I had a place to go I get along best with my mom when I don't live with her and my dad doesn't mind me staying at his house but the room we would have barely fits one person it won't be able to fit 3. And we can't afford our own place. One bedroom appt. Here are like 700 and my husband only make 900 a month give or take

jbaby

Have you tried like income based housing or something?

EmmaRylynn19

Try tlkung to them about what u pay. Tell them u dnt think its fair. Mayb u can figure something else out that is more fair. I guess if worse comes to worse move with ur dad while u save for ur own place, it might b less sressful

andrea1stbaby

@jbaby the list for the housing is crazyyy

andrea1stbaby

@EmmaRylynn19 thank you I just don't feel like its my duty to talk to them I feel like its my husbands but my husband never backks me up he says for us to just deal with it

misspregger6989

It sounds like instead of asking for rent, they're throwing a bill at you for you to take care of instead. It's not fair that you don't use the service, but they are probably looking out for themselves that way. I mean, if you only paid a set amount at the first of the month for rent to them, if you were short money they probably would accept whatever you could give them. But the cable company won't care in that sense.

Also, maybe talk to them and let them know that you have a lot you're paying on already and maybe you can get rid of some perks like HBO. Times are hard for a lot of people right now and they should understand that they don't NEED those channels.

I would try to sell things you don't need (truck for a larger car?) and save as much as you can. Even $5 a week is something. Because when that baby comes, living with the parents is going to be much harder and stressful than you think. And you might feel like you want to get out. With money saved up, it would be an option for you if you needed it.

When I had roommates and bought food I really didn't want to share, I hid them in my room in a box just for me. And the stuff that needed to be refrigerated maybe write a humorous note on it like "save some for baby!". I'm sure they're not eating the food to spite you, they probably just don't realize what they're doing.

I'm just giving some advice and I hope you baby and hubby take care and be happy!

EmmaRylynn19

O! I see yeah I agree with u there. He needs to back u up with this.. I totally agree! I hope u figure it all out

jcmommy

You're not paying for rent which is a big save for you but maybe say that you would like to have internet and cable too. Invest in a mini fridge! Even if you get your man to speak up about what you want, they'll still know it was you who wanted it said. And maybe instead of buying a new vehicle, just trade it in for a 4 Dr car.

expectingbabynumber3

I know excactly how u feel. Man we both r in the same place wish things were better