Im fileing charges against him *UPDATE*

jewel

My guy has been hitting me in front of our daughter and his 5 year old son I keep giving him chances to go to anger management then the day before fathers day he raped me I was already depressed before then and after it was like he changed he started to be nicer and I thought it was all over the abuse continued. I haven't been dealing with-it especially since his sister and parents don't want me to come forward cause they don't want to lose Nick ( his 5 year old son) the whole family including Tony has turned there back on me my daughter and unborn kid just for thinking about getting
Tony help they don't even know im meeting with cops tomorrow part of me doesn't want it because it may sound dumb but I love him I've been with him 2 years and he's been everything especially since I choose him over friends and I want my kids to have both parents im miserable im scared im lonely I can't sleep I can't eat

*UPDATE*
Everyone is against me my whole family hateshim and are forcing abortion on me no one wants to help me get my stuff from Tony's house so there's no point I rather spend my life with Tony then have to start all over and be completely alone for the rest of my life.

second_time_mommy7

I know exactly what you are going through. I went through the same thing with my ex. You are doing what is best for you and the children, possibly even him. You have to protect yourself, your children need their mommy and your daughter needs to know how a man treats a woman. This is not the way. Our children follow in our foot steps and your daughter needs to know this is not the way a man treats a woman. What is your game plan after you meet with the cops? Do you have proof of the abuse? Are they going to take him in or do you have to worry about going home to him and getting beat up for filing the report? If I remember correctly your family is in a different state. Do you have a safe place to go after you talk to the cops?

starrxoxo9

Oh honey I'm so sorry you going through this. Please know that you DO NOT deserve to be treated like that, and as much as you love him, you have to protect yourself and your children. If he truly loved, cherished, and respected you and your family, he wouldn't want to hurt you. Stay strong, you will be ok!! Somewhere there is a man who will love you and protect you!! Don't settle for less!!,

Wilsomom

I'm glad you're getting help! I know it's hard & your feelings will go back & forth. Keep your chin up & come here for encouragement.

Wilsomom

We'll help you through this!

mommyof3girls

Agreed w the rest of the woman... Stay strong and remember by getting away from this you ARE making the best choice. No woman deserve to live w abuse. Leave b4 he starts hitting the kids.

MyLove2

The kids would also follow the same direction IF you continue to be with him. Get out while everything is still mild before it gets severe, you and the kids diserve better. Take caution and get the help to get away from him..

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Jess510

I'm sorry your going through this.

jewel

@second_time_mommy7 im staying with a friend Nd yes I have pics if the abuse and him admitting via text he hit me I don't have a plan on what's next im just miserable this is the longest I've gone without talking to him in 2 years its horrible I just want to go back in time

Fate

I am so sorry this is happening to you! I couldn't imagine. But, you're doing what's best for you and your babies. Heck, you might even be saving a future girlfriend/wife of his 5 year old's from abuse if you take action. And if he doesn't get help, your daughter might think it's ok for her husband/boyfriend to abuse her later in life.

smcox

Oh I an so glad you are getting help! Don't let his family bully you! It's best for his son as well! He does not need to be around it! And his family its being selfish! Please don't go back to him! Ever!

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Get out while u can. Some men don't care and will beat the kids too and you definitely don't want that. Stay strong and keep us updated!

MommyLovesSparkle

i agree with tootie08 get out while you can! Please think straight and realize that you can do so much better and dont deserve that. There IS guys out there that are not abusive and will treat you like the princess you are. He is capable of hitting the baby too and you need to put your children before yourself. So what if you love him, the next one that comes along you will love 10 times better because he will treat you right, please dont stand for it. Your not going to be lonely. Think of the baby and get away.

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DavidnAadynsMama

Hunni, you have to get out and stay out! You dont deserve that. No one does! No matter who is against you...do the right thing. Do what you would want your own children to do in the same situation. Be the one to set the example for them that abuse isnt okay! Obviously he is setting the opposite example. I think its nice that you are "trying to get him help" but I hope its not because you love him and hope he gets better so you can be with him. Love isnt supposed to hurt hun, and if hes done these things, most likely it WILL happen again...over and over Dont go back to that sweetheart. Btw, if you need to get your things out of his house you can have a police officer escort you there. They will do that. It will keep you safe! As far as the abortion, dont let anyone pressure you unless its what YOU want. I really really hope you stay strong and leave his ass for good. Being alone is sooo much better than abuse and you WILL find better. Hugssss sweety

DavidnAadynsMama

@homebirthadvocate exactly right on thhe police escort. Hubby works for the sheriffs dept and said they will most definitely go with her, regardless of whether or not she has previously pressed charges

CANT_WAIT93

You're just going to make it harder to leave I the future...and you're giving the worst life lesson to your kids. I tell u from experience I come from a family that my dad would beat my mom at least 2/3x a month. They were together for 25 years. But at the end it was worth crap because my dad still left my mom for another women. And now me a my other siblings suffer for it. Not because we don't have our dad but because all we have are horrible memories of it. Im 18 , now and I have night mares from when I was 5 of my mom crying on the floor. Do you want that for your babys. Think about it first he rapes you...but what's going to happen when he is tired of you?
Who going to be next?
A man like that doesn't deserve a second chance. And ur family is right for hating him.

starrxoxo9

Only you can make your choices. And unfortunately for your kids right now you're making their choices to. If you stay it will hurt them more than you know. Even if he never touches them. Like @cant_wait93 said, you are setting them up for a lifetime of emotional scarring and confusion for how life should be. Can you imagine a man hitting your daughter when she's your age?? You don't want her to think that's ok.