my relationship
Well for those of you that have seen my posts in the past about the issues I've been having at home here's some news.
Things came to an absolute head with me and the wife last night while we were lay in bed. I ended up laying all my cards on the table and even told her that unless she is going to talk to me etc I'm done with everything. Well she asked what I meant by that and I told her that I meant exactly what I said and that I would pack my shit and go.
Now I would like to say that I kept calm and controlled during this but I broke down entirely. She listened to what I said about feeling unwanted and rejected by her without saying much until I said I felt our marriage was falling apart or over. Well then she agreed we have been falling apart but she didn't know what to do about it. She didn't say anything else really and I explained that if she wasn't sure what to say then write it down for me.
At the moment nothing has been said but am giving her some room to think carefully about what she says. Hopefully its time for a stronger relationship to begin soon.
Thanks for all the support.
Mike.
Things came to an absolute head with me and the wife last night while we were lay in bed. I ended up laying all my cards on the table and even told her that unless she is going to talk to me etc I'm done with everything. Well she asked what I meant by that and I told her that I meant exactly what I said and that I would pack my shit and go.
Now I would like to say that I kept calm and controlled during this but I broke down entirely. She listened to what I said about feeling unwanted and rejected by her without saying much until I said I felt our marriage was falling apart or over. Well then she agreed we have been falling apart but she didn't know what to do about it. She didn't say anything else really and I explained that if she wasn't sure what to say then write it down for me.
At the moment nothing has been said but am giving her some room to think carefully about what she says. Hopefully its time for a stronger relationship to begin soon.
Thanks for all the support.
Mike.
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I just got a text from her saying "I know we need to work on us but I just don't really know where to start". I told her we need to really work on our communication and getting the spark back. I have given her 3 days to basically write down what she is feeling/missing in the relationship and I will do the same. Then we start trying to fix them one at a time. I also admitted that while it seems I was pushing for sex all the time what I really wanted was for her to want me. I also admitted being a dick about how I went about dealing with that lol.
@GirlsLoveInk87
Is no problem unloading as its basically what I have been going through. What is weird is probably the fact its me feeling this not my wife lol. Feel free to chat.
@BlessedTxMom thanks and I know what you mean. I think this is a fair bit of our problem because she does expect somethings that are just never going to happen. I have boosted everything I do while I'm between jobs and start new job in 2 weeks from Monday. Money hasn't been a issue as I took long service leave and only a transfer etc to new position.
I am trying all I can but not getting my hopes up yet until she actually starts showing me she's trying. I have put out all I have at the moment and just don't think I can drop my defences any further in case it doesn't work out.
Well she can have all the time she fucking wants then because I'm over this shit. I have zero me time but don't see me blaming that on her no. So I suggested Friday night we go to tea and a movie? What do I get back and who is going to watch the kids. She expects my mum every time because her family won't watch them ever. Well guess we aren't going anywhere.
Vent over for now.