Me just being paranoid?
So my husband has been going out and running every evening or going to to the gym. I'm stuck at home with both kids and would like to work out too but he makes it into some big deal and I wind up not going. Two nights ago he is about to go running with a church member. I suggest we take the kids in strollers and I get to run too. He basically shoots it down and says "I cant run with a stroller" and I could go after he gets back which will be 9 p.m. um...hell no I'm not going to get murdered or God forbid-raped because he made me run so late at night. So he takes off and he comes back afterwards and says "so and so wife said she wants to go running with us and the kids" meaning her kids who are all 3-4 yrs old. I'm really angry then and asks him how the hell someone with 3 school age kids who will not fit into a stroller but you cant run with our 1 yr old and a 2 month old??? Why does he listen to her and not me? This womans name he can remember and actually has corrected me a few times on how to pronounce it but he cant even remember our babysisters name or our kids Drs names.when I brought it up to him he got super mad and said I was just being crazy.(even though hes always saying how "secretive about things and will tell me stories on how he thinks I will cheat) Am I just being paranoid or does this sound bad to anyone else? He wants to go over there next week for the 4th of July BBQ and I'm not sure if that's a good idea.
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I'd day its a sign of cheating (sorry), getting in shape.
I really think its me not being a Mormon. Hes a mormon and has expressed many times how he wants me to go the church. Even though when we got married he wasn't an active member and knew and was ok with me being a Catholic. I have expressed to him numerous times how I just don't feel comfortable converting. So I think its just maybe "enjoyment" to him or something seeing this mormon family???
Also he has been watching more porn than usual in order to "get himself off" because Sex with me just sucks to him. I'm really upset with him because last Sunday he got his temple reccomend which is basically so he can go inside their temples but he has told me in the past how "worthy someone must be to get that card" they are interviewed by the church to get that card and I felt he almost doesn't deserve it because of what he has done ans how he has been acting.
@blessedtxmom thanks I'll check it out
On another note, I'm glad he let you participate. I hope it continues. Good luck.
@second_time_mommy7 I see where you're coming from. Belive me I'm a big Sex freak. I wear lingerie, jump him for quickies from time to time. Do postions that he wants to do even if they hurt me sometimes, give him oral etc
@Davidnaaydensmama I don't care if he watches porn. Hell we have watched it together before and have DVDs we have bought but like I said now its an almost daily thing with him. Even if we have had Sex the night/day before he watches it to get off. I don't think he has for the past couple of day's though
Don't slander or insult him directly and don't air your dirty laundry but use your words carefully to let the other mothers suspect what he is doing without making you look like a nagging wife.
Then go out and get the double stroller. Become an irresistible super hot mama. Tell him that you're not in the mood because it's like a job.