I say, a good indicator of future action is past action. I wouldn't put to much stock in what he has to say until he has been responsible for an extended period of time!
I really don't know what to say besides he should be ashamed you guys are living in a shelter trying to get it together for your kids and he is jeopridizing it. He really needs to get it together. Its up to you if you want to believ him or not just be smart about the situation you guys are in your kids deserve better I hope he gets it together for the kids sake
When he got caught smoking that at work the boss called the cops and I guess they had the paramedic come as well. Not sure why. But he said that the paramedic was talking to him about spice. And that they would rather people smoke actual pot than spice. I told him that I heard it could cause seizers and heart attachs. He said he is done with it. He also told me last night that he's going to try quiting ciggerets as well. I love him and I want to believe him. But I'm afraid to. I want to make it work cuz we have been together for 6 yrs. And to me that's a long time. Lol. @davidnaadynsmama
I don't know why anyone would do spice, other than the drug test factor. Marijuana has many positive health benefits. Spice does not and the high with spice isn't anything close to marijuana. Sorry that you have to go through all of this.
@captivated Ive smoked spice once and seriously thought I was going to die. Whereas, weed has never given me a problem (i very rarely smoke anymore but used to daily).
@davidnaadynsmama I thought I was gonna die too I thought my husband was gonna hit me (witch he never has even acted like it) so ya it f'd me up and totally not in a good way
I had my first day of work today and bryan came to see me on lunch. I was talking to him about it cuz he mentioned talking to his mom. Anyways. I told him I didn't think I could believe him and he said he was done for good. That he was sorry for all the times he has lied. But it will take time for me to trust him.
What you ladies think about this? He called our pastor and told him about what happened and said he had a little drug problem. They are going to have lunch or coffee this week to talk about it. @captivated@davidnaadynsmama@skysma@jules@dadof2n1togo@mama_kat@everyone else I couldn't remember.
Yeah the fact he is looking for help is a great start and unfortunately all of this and you saying you were done was probably the wake up call he needed. Just try take it one day at a time and see what happens. He is going to be the one that has to do the work to rebuild your relationship and trust in him. It will take a lot of time and effort on both parts but the first step is admitting he has a problem which he has now.
Thank you everyone for all your help and support. I appreciate all of you. You all have helped me get through these tough times I've been having. Thank you so much.
@Angel26 I think it's great his trying to get help and also showing you his sorry. I would maybe after they meet tell him you want to be involved that way u know he is don't it for sure. And you will also know how to help him get better if you want to see the relationship work this is a great chance to start being a team again. There are times where it needs to be just him if he is getting help from a 3rd party. Hope that makes sense.
@jules thanks. I will stand by him and do my best to help him. I guess our pastor told him he needed a bunch of people around him. I'm assuming for support. I really hope he's serious about all this. He told me when he picked me up that he seen our caseworker with the shelter and our oldest son told her that he got fired for smoking stuff at work. @Dadof2n1togo I understand what you mean about getting your mind off things going on in your life. That's why I love pregly so much. Cuz everyone helps me and supports me. But they also distract me. Lol. But we aren't sure if he actually got fired or if he's just on unpaid leave. Cuz the boss/owner said he would give him another chance if he goes to court and pleas guilty and does drug tests. Plus he doesn't get his pay until payday. Which here if you get fired you get your last pay within 24/48 hours after being fired.
Well sounds like his trying. But honestly if I was him I would not go to court and plee guilty because ok he gets his job back with this person but after that this going to have a hard time finding a job trust me I know and the money it takes when they make you go to classes and all the other stuff u guys don't need that at all. Plus technically speaking the owner can go to jail for "threatening" him. When you plee guilty that is the first thing they ask is if someone is forcing you? If he lies and said no and the court finds out that is considered a felony which is straight jail time. And the boss will be busted too. And you don't have to worry about him saying anything to the police because they won't even come out unless the can catch the person doing it in action at the time of the call. Or they can set up cameras but even if they did that your husband no longer has the stuff or will do it again especially at the shelter so he can't be changed with anything. I say he explains to the boss all of the risks and if he doesn't take him back oh well. he needs to look for new job anyways since your not sure if he still has this one.
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@Dadof2n1togo I understand what you mean about getting your mind off things going on in your life. That's why I love pregly so much. Cuz everyone helps me and supports me. But they also distract me. Lol.
But we aren't sure if he actually got fired or if he's just on unpaid leave. Cuz the boss/owner said he would give him another chance if he goes to court and pleas guilty and does drug tests. Plus he doesn't get his pay until payday. Which here if you get fired you get your last pay within 24/48 hours after being fired.
Sorry off topic, just wondering.