Are you kidding me?!

loveourlittleone

Our son's name is Landon and he is 9 months old. I broke up with my son's father in February after I found out he was talking to a girl he worked with and inviting her to dinner with other people they worked with. Btw, I know he was interested in her, it wasn't just a friendly work relationship. We have a history of him being unfaithful and talking to numerous girls inappropriately so I was pretty much sick of it and tired of trying.
Anyway, our lease was up at the end of June and we both moved out. I've gone along with everything he wanted as far as our son is concerned. We each have him for a week at the time (father's idea) and no child support is being paid, even though he makes twice as much as I do (and he can afford to do all sorts of things to his car and go on vacations, which I'll get into in a sec).
Friday evening he picked Landon up and asked for his swimsuit because he wanted to "take him swimming at his dad's". Anyway, Sunday morning I found out that he took my son to Panama City Beach (we live in Georgia, like a 3 hour drive but still) and he treated some new girl and her two boys to a vacation also! It was his idea that we wouldn't have whoever we started dating around our son until he was older. Then he goes and pulls this crap. What if something had happened? I wouldn't have known where my son was! I was furious that he took my son on his first beach trip, especially without telling me. I am so hurt. After trying to make our relationship work. Suggesting we go on vacations and do things and he never wanted to. Even when I was suffering from horrible PPD, he wasn't there for me, he was talking to that girl he worked with. Now all of a sudden he wants to be family man with this new girl...I HATE him.

captivated

I understand how you're feeling hun. It sucks to see that. However, he has moved on and he is your son's father as well. Legally, he can do as he wishes when it is his time with his son. You should have been notified of the distance for the trip though! Do you guys have custody down on paper? I would get that done through a court appointed mediator and include in there that the chid will not be brought out of state without the other parent's consent. That's what I did with mine!

loveourlittleone

@captivated Yeah, I was just so angry that he was actively trying to hide that he was taking our son out of town.
Go ahead, move on, be with whoever you want. But don't go back on an agreement that was YOUR idea.

captivated

Exactly. Some people are hypocrites and something is ONLY okay if it is THEM doing it.

loveourlittleone

@captivated you are SO right.

starrxoxo9

Oh I'd be FURIOUS too!!! All your relationship stuff aside, he needs to be a responsible parent to your son. And that means letting you know where he is!! Also, I'd reevaluate your child support situation (if you're struggling).

captivated

Because you two share joint custody and an equal amount of parenting time, there would likely not be a child support order granted.

loveourlittleone

@captivated @starrxoxo9 I think I might be able to get a little child support, because he does make a GOOD big more than I do. At least that is what I've read online. I could use a little help, but he has said whatever I need he would do. Of course, I don't think that's saying much. He isn't the most trustworthy person out there when it comes to me.

YNVTish

Well.. you do know that the courts will not make you do this every other week junk until much later in life unless you agree. Is give his ragedy.. two timing ass every other weekends they rape him a new ass hole so YOU can take a vacation with your new Louis Vuitton travel back compliments of your child support check.

BabyNumber3ontheway

My oldest daughters dad has joint custody & we have equal days but he still pays 1,000$ a month in child support. Every state & situation is different I would try if I were you.