how big of a roll does sex play in your relstionship
I'm asking because my sex life has become almost non existent. We were only together 4 months before I found out was pregnant so still in the honeymoon fase. Things naturally eased off from 2-4 times daily to 3-4 times a week and towards the end of pregnancy 1-2 times a week. After our daughter was born I was healed enough after 2 weeks to resume our sex life gently (baby is now 9months)... since then his interest has declined to once a week if I'm lucky and because its so long between it lasts no more than 5 minutes if I'm lucky. I have always had a big sex drive and he its aware of this. Everything else in our relationship is in a good place we are both happy and hardly fighting anymore. He uses the excuse he is tired 99% of the time and I know he is but I feel he should be making more of an effort. I guess I'm also confused because when we met he told me his ex would only want sex every 4-6 weeks and he was always frustrated, upset about it. Have tried talking to him about it and that usually ends up in sex at some point in the following 48 hours... but that's it... I'm left feeling hurt, rejected, unattractive and unwanted and it's starting to reflect on my moods towards him because I feel like crap. Thank you for reading my loooong vent... just don't know what to do to fix this
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We have four kids together and had sex daily. Kids is really not much of an excuse. Even when my son was a month old it was a daily thing. Often multiple times a day and we both had full time jobs.
The only thing that got us back on track was a LOT of fixing nyself up. realized i had fallen behind on it. Lots of sexy lingerie as well Now we are right back where we were!
It's so hard because we are getting on so well right now apart from this issue and I don't always want to bring it up because then we fight
Put those fifty shades Down!!
It's absolutely true that men go through a post partum stage and become exhausted easy. Not with over exertion but with simply being a part of a new routine.
Hang in there! Try and create moments for you guys.
This is common