Help! Inappropriate/creepy pre-K game UPDATE AT BOTTOM!

I have a concern about a game my son's preschool class (supposedly) plays. He just started a private christian school yesterday & I'm hoping he is explaining the game wrong, but here goes.

He told me they play a "shirt game" (they wear uniform polo shirts) where they all race to see who can take them off the fastest. I asked him about the little girls, and if they have anything underneath. He said "some have skirts" but im assuming he means something else besides "skirt" but he said not all of them do. I was changing his school clothes while this convo was happening, so while I had his shirt off, I asked if he could see there skin on their chest (while pointing at his) and he laughed and said "yea & they can see mine". Now, maybe im crazy...and im really hoping he is explaining wrong bc this is extremely inappropriate!! My husband says that there has to be more to it & that she is probably giving them a diff shirt to use. He's probably (hopefully) right but I still need to get to the bottom of this bc it sounds pretty damn creepy
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  • Yeah that just sounds wrong....
  • Wow I Would go spy lol
  • Also..i have a friend on FB whose daughter is in the same class. I told her about what david said & she asked her daughter. The daughter said "no, no shirt game mommy. We dont play any games". Im very confused because he has never made up stories that didnt have some basis of truth. I dont know what to think. This teacher (female) is spoken very highly of by everyone ive talked to. They say I couldnt ask for a better teacher & has most of her pre-k kids reading by the end of the year. I haveba very hard time believing this is really happening (the way he says) but I cant just ignore it. Help/advice/opinions please
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  • Do they paint and wear other shirts over top? Or smocks?
  • Maybe its a game just the kids play? The teacher may not even know. I've learned being a parent of an older child the kids play their.own games sometimes the teachers know nothing about. The girls at my daughters school play where they shove each other (its two sisters who do it and its something they do while waiting for school to let them in in the morning) we dealt with it but the teachers don't even see it. So I'd suggest talking to the teacher. Bc it will definitely ease your mind. If it is in fact a game they play with the teacher then you can tell her how you feel (I'd def agree its inappropriate)
  • Is it possible just some kids are doing it without the teacher? Like at recess or something? Idk, it does sound strange though.
  • It sounds like he's lifting his shirt up as a game with other kids maybe showing belly buttons or something that wouldn't be so noticeable to.the teacher
  • My sister got on trouble playing games like that . It was the kids doing it without the teachers knowing. It happened on kindergarten also on a school with uniforms. Once the teacher finally cought on the kids were sent to the principal and parents were notified the same day. I would bring it up to the principal to talk to the teacher and investigate if It's kids doing it themselves or otherwise.
  • I would also ask the principle not the teacher. Just because u never know for sure and u don't need to be on the middle plus if it's going on someone in charge needs to know.
  • @wilsomom I am with you. Sounds like a game some of the kids were playing by themselves at free time.
  • I would ask the teacher and the other moms who cares about offending them or anytbing but its super creepy you need to get to the bottom of it there clothea should not be coming off
  • @mama_kat Yes I am talking to her first thing tomorrow & he wont be left there until I get an answer that im satisfied with

    @steph_due_101611 They do have art smocks, yes but I specificly asked if he uses the shirt he goes to school in

    @sehra4177 @wilsomom @lafiitz89 I suppose its possible but according to him, the teacher taught them how to play & watches them

    @everyone-else Thankyou for your input. I will get to the bottom of this immediately & give an update tomorrow morning/afternoon

    I have heard amazing things about this teacher. She has been there 20yrs & is highly recommended so im pretty sure this isnt true or maybe just a half truth, but regardless, its something that requires a closer look & some investigating. I just cant think of any circumstance in which this would be an appropriate game for children. Definite update somorrow! Thanks ladies



  • Do they ever change clothes at the school, for outside water play, art or something?

    My son had a preschool where they had to change into swim clothes once a week and the teachers "made a game" of getting changed or else the children would play around and take forever. Sometimes the kids would wear swimsuits underneath their clothes and your son's "game" sounds similar. They also had shirts they all changed into if they went for a "field trip" (walk off school grounds) and one for messy play.

    But I agree with everyone else, figure out what is going on, there are creepos everywhere!
  • Let us know what you find out. :)
  • Ahh, ok I didn't realize the teacher is there...I'd definitely talk to her asap
  • Okay so here is the update. We took david to school this morning & talked to the teacher. When we mentioned it, I could see the look on her face like she really had no idea what we were talking about. She looked at him & said "David, what game do we play?"...and he responded "oh, we dont play that game here". So im very disappointed that he didnt tell me the truth, but now when he gets home I have to find out if he completely made it up or if it happened somewhere else. At this point im just leaning toward he made it all up. I was pretty doubtful that it happened anyway, or at least the way he said it, but Ive never known him to make up stories. Now I dont know how to react to this. Should he be punished for telling such a potentially harmful lie or just talk to him & tell him it was wrong?
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  • Do you know if he recently had a lesson in stranger danger or inappropriate touching?
  • I think He.should.be punished that way he.learns because some parents go straight to the police and it could of caused a huge problem. I knw kids r kids but we have to.be strong in situations like that and teach them that its very wrong to lie about things like that
  • I don't think he should be punished because he probably has no idea what he did wrong! He's pretty young and kids are imaginative. I think you just need to sit down and talk to him about make believe, storytelling, and the truth. He had no idea that a silly made up game could potentially be so harmful.
  • I agree ^^^
  • He's at that age where they make up all kinds of crazy things. Don't punish him. Just explain the difference between make believe and what's real. It's will b ok. Just a stage. I have a very creative 5 yr old. Lol.
  • I agree with no.punishing, just explain the difference in make believe story telling and the real stuff. And that make.believe story telling can get people in trouble.
  • I am a preschool 2 year old teacher and my kids like to flip thier shirts up or pull the hem over thier head.. They are in a learning phase with dress and such so maybe that it. When I have to change a childs clothes I try to do it in the (open) bathroom but sometimes we cant. We do not have same sex bathrooms at this age but I think that starts at the 4 year old classes... maybe 'old' 3's. But dont punish just keep talking about telling the truth.
  • @mama_kat whats the face for? Lol

    Okay so this is what I did. When he came home I had a talk with him. He knows that lying is wrong but I really think that he only considered something a lie if I asked him a direct question, like "did you break this" etc. Anyway, he told me that he was "joking" and I explained to him that if he says something about a REAL person that he knows & it isnt the truth, than he is telling a lie. I also explained that children do not take their clothes off at school (unless they have an accident) so the "game" he was "joking" about could have got his teacher in trouble. He really seemed to understand what I was saying so I dropped it. Ill be sure to continue working with him to know the difference between lying & using his imagination to tell stories. Thanks for everyone's help
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  • Glad he understood and that it was just a misunderstanding. Little ones can have such imaginations sometimes.
  • Oh I'm glad it wasn't true, phew. Not good about him lying but a relief to know there isn't some sick teacher out there. There are already too many out there.
    The way you talked to him should help him.understand that what he did was wrong.
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