@Fate

So everything with me and my hubbs is going about as bad as it possibly can. Yesterday morning we had a hugh fight which ended with both of us saying we wanted a divorce. He finally admitted to not even trying to fix our marriage after he cheated (even though he said he has been for the last 5 months). Well i left and took the kids on a picnic to get away. We ended up talking on the phone the whole time i was gone and we came to the conclusion that we do want to be together but neither of us are in love with each other. We love each other but we're not in love anymore. So we decided that we're gonna give it one more shot and really try to make this marriage work. My ? To you is is that even possible and how do you even start to get the love back? I want it to work so bad and really want to get back yo our awesome loving relationship we once had. We plan on having a date night once a week without the kids but what else can we do? We're also gonna go to a marriage counselor. I'm asking you cause you've been thru this and you were the one who gave me hope that we could stay together after his nasty little indiscretions. Sorry this is so long just kinda wanted to give you an update about what's been going on. So any advice you have i am open to give it a try!

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  • This gave ne the chills. Literally yesterday, I came to the conclusion with myself that I have never loved my husband more than I do now. I find myself daydreaming about him. My advice is to you? Communication. It is key.. Also, people crave attention. Both people need to take the time to compliment each other randomly. Everyday. I will write more later when I get home. I will send you the steps we took to fall back in love with each other (it wasn't easy). We made the list together... Maybe you and your Hubster can do the same. :) I am so sorry you two are having a rough time, but I am so happy you want to try to fix it! :x You're not alone. I will be here every single step of the way. :x
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  • I just read that to my hubbs and he said "that's awesome" lol. I love your advice!!! But communication for him is very hard. He has shut down all of his emotions and it's like pulling teeth trying to get him to talk. He's gonna start going to a shrink again to try and help him. So hopefully it will help! But i guess it's one step at a time. Can't wait for you to get home so you can give me more of your AWESOME advice lol!!! @Fate
  • @mama_kat Those are great ideas! I can't express how much i want this to work and that I'm ready and willing to do anything to keep my family together!
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  • @mama_kat the note thing sounds cool no matter the problems.
  • edited September 2012
    The nights I use to work second and I wouldn't get to see hubby for like 12hrs u would leave a note where he puts his keys when he comes home. Or I would take sticky notes and place them all around the places that I knew he would look..like on the back of the front door, in the shower, in his beer fridge lol it was fun. I had a great time hiding them and I think he had a good time finding them. I would number them so he knew how many there were. They would say random things on them.
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  • I love love love that idea about the journal!!! We're definitely gonna be doing that. @mama_kat :)
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  • I always leave my bf notes before he leaves :)
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