Advice??

BabyNumber3ontheway

Sooo today me & hubby were talking & he asked if we could have a 3some or if I would be interested in one.. " every guys fantasy " right? Well what's throwing me off is he wants another guy to join?? We've never done anything like this before & im very nervous about opening those doors. Any advice? Has anyone done this?

Máthair

If you're not 100% then don't do it. Even if you think you might be okay with it. Wait and don't try to convince yourself. I know several alternative life couples who work great and the encounters strengthen their relationship. On the flip side I know several couples who thought it was what they wanted but felt guilty, jelious, or pressured into it and that ruined them.

Be open about it; ask him why he want another man, if he wants to see you with another man offer to "pleasure" yourself for him, if he wants the man for him... Well if you're comfortable with it they do sell accessories for you to help him out with that aspect as well.

If you do this make sure you both agree on the rules/limits and can respect them in the heat of the moment. It can be a good strenthing thing for a couple as long as everyone involved as long as everyone is comfortable, and respectful.

Máthair

Sorry so long but there really isn't a one or two line answer.

Also there are alternative life books available maybe you'll want to look into them. Seriously; there are self help/advice books not just glorified porn.

mommyof3girls

I have no advise but that sure makes u think a lot and wonder, huh? I think a million things would probably be going thru my head.

Roxy

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Janet_2011

You should just ask him why he wants another man in the threesome , and think about well before you even try it, I have seen many successful threesomes and some that don't end up well, be sure that is something you want to do, and even if you feel that you want to do it, set some rules so both you and hubby dont get too jealous.. I was the one to offer the idea to my husband , and he said he isnt going to share me with another girl or another guy.. So I guess is not every mans fantasy after all

SalasMommy

Yeah if its something u dont want to do dont do it. And of course safe sex if u decide to. For some it works for othera it destroys completely their relationship. Think.about it

BabyNumber3ontheway

Thanks for all the advice. @conreeaght @mommyof3girls @Roxy @Janet_2011 @SalasMommy
We talked more & he said it's not a big deal to him but it's something he really wants to try. I'm not to comfortable with it at all & im scared it will come in between us. He said he just wants to see me with him & another guy but the whole idea is kinda grossing me out the more I think about it. I think I would be more open with another girl then guy. Lol. I don't know. I'm so confused. This all is throwing me for a loop. He gets jealous if a guy even looks my way, how is he supposed to handle seeing another guy having sex with me??? Plus after its done i don't want him to look at me different. Ya know.. I'm soooo confused.

second_time_mommy7

I say tell him no. If you are not 100% ok with it no. He may be testing you to see if you would sleep with someone else, Also if he has a jealousy problem now your relationship probably won't survive a threesome. I hate to sound so blunt but imo not a lot of relationships could survive a threesome, you have to have a very strong, non jealous relationship and 2 people that can completely separate sex from love or a relationship where you just don't honestly love the other person.