i need help...don't know what to do
Let me start this of with the stats. We've been married 7.5 years, known each other for 8. We have one son who will be a year old thus month and I'm 6 months pregnant with our second.
We don't quit...we don't give up, we're in this for the long haul. However, we both have major anxiety and anger issues and both have depression. Not the greatest combination, I know.
In our 8 years together we've had only a handful of real fights. But the past two we've had he's mentioned divorce and part of me thinks he says it just to say it, shock value, I guess...but another part of me thinks...he wouldn't bring it up if it really hadn't crossed his mind before...right? He hates when I nag, which my nagging is "please come to bed cause it's 11:30 and we have to get up ay 6." I work full time, come home make dinner, chase after our son, do dishes laundry shower then bed. While he plays five different apps on his tablet, plays video games, messing around with computer stuff, etc.
Now I love my husband and I don't want to begrudge him his free time, but I can't even brging to tell you how lost I feel. He does everything by his own schedule and he hates when I "manage his time" by wanting him to come to bed but really, I'm not managing his time he manages ours. And that's not how it should be. Everything I do is now done around our son's schedule. Like last night I wanted to lay him down for bed which we usually do together or try to anyways, but yesterday I wanted to later him down and yge just kept saying give me a minute.. .while he finished posting in some Facebook group. Is that a joke?
*sigh* I know that sounds kinda lame, there's more to it, but this long post would be even longer ...I just needed a place to vent cause I can't talk to any of my family or friends.
What I really would like to do is go back to therapy...so I can have someone to talk yo consistently, but I feel like eventually he might get irritated with having to watch our son for an hour and a half while I go talk to someone.
I'm just so devastated right now.
We don't quit...we don't give up, we're in this for the long haul. However, we both have major anxiety and anger issues and both have depression. Not the greatest combination, I know.
In our 8 years together we've had only a handful of real fights. But the past two we've had he's mentioned divorce and part of me thinks he says it just to say it, shock value, I guess...but another part of me thinks...he wouldn't bring it up if it really hadn't crossed his mind before...right? He hates when I nag, which my nagging is "please come to bed cause it's 11:30 and we have to get up ay 6." I work full time, come home make dinner, chase after our son, do dishes laundry shower then bed. While he plays five different apps on his tablet, plays video games, messing around with computer stuff, etc.
Now I love my husband and I don't want to begrudge him his free time, but I can't even brging to tell you how lost I feel. He does everything by his own schedule and he hates when I "manage his time" by wanting him to come to bed but really, I'm not managing his time he manages ours. And that's not how it should be. Everything I do is now done around our son's schedule. Like last night I wanted to lay him down for bed which we usually do together or try to anyways, but yesterday I wanted to later him down and yge just kept saying give me a minute.. .while he finished posting in some Facebook group. Is that a joke?
*sigh* I know that sounds kinda lame, there's more to it, but this long post would be even longer ...I just needed a place to vent cause I can't talk to any of my family or friends.
What I really would like to do is go back to therapy...so I can have someone to talk yo consistently, but I feel like eventually he might get irritated with having to watch our son for an hour and a half while I go talk to someone.
I'm just so devastated right now.
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Good luck!
I just hate ruts like this...
I think if you guys get a therapist to help talk it thru that would help...bc you have alot invested in.your relationship like we do...time kids and your heart.