well its over :'(
Well as most of you know I've had a pretty crap run of late and I can say I have just hit rock bottom.
My wife and I have decided to basically separate on a trial basis at this stage. I am totally lost right now.
I knew our marriage was struggling but I really didn't see this happening at all. I was supposed to go to work today but I've basically just sat in tears all day and don't even know how to tell the kids I'm not going to be there as much anymore.
I think we can work this out but I just don't know how I'm going to manage to keep going. I can honestly say if it wasn't for the kids I wouldn't be here to write this by now.
My wife and I have decided to basically separate on a trial basis at this stage. I am totally lost right now.
I knew our marriage was struggling but I really didn't see this happening at all. I was supposed to go to work today but I've basically just sat in tears all day and don't even know how to tell the kids I'm not going to be there as much anymore.
I think we can work this out but I just don't know how I'm going to manage to keep going. I can honestly say if it wasn't for the kids I wouldn't be here to write this by now.
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Just remember this is not necessarily a bad thing it may be what you guys need to reconnect again... but if not then you will be able to have some time to heal and find something in your life to make you happy again.
At the moment I am just moving stuff into our rumpus room which is separate to the main house as I have no where to go anyway.
Alot is going on right now in your life and its rough but hang in there for your kids. It's either going to be she will finally realize how good of a guy you are and you'll get back together. Or you may realize that you really do want and need something different. Someone who appreciates the nice guy that you are:)
But good luck today hope that's get better after you can really sit down and talk to sometime.
I hope it gets better too for you:)
I can't help but wonder if the issue lies solely with her. Please forgive me for the following interlude, but it had been my impression for a while.
I have been around many overweight women and I myself battled with it. It really messes with our self confidence and to some affects our social lives and our relationships. We fear that our men desire the ”thin” woman and being thin is the only beautiful.
Is it possible that with your illness and recent weight loss that she resents you and has exacerbated her current self-confidence? I know it sounds ridiculous, but I think you would know if this was the case. Do you tell her she's beautiful? Do you compliment her at random times? We women love to hear it even though we may not believe it ourselves. Are you rubbing in how others have complimented your weight loss? If so, she may see it as a jab to her self-worth.
I can tell that you love her and for your sake and that of your kids hope things turn in your favor. I believe you deserve it!
I was thinking of you these past two days in your absence and wasn't surprised you were down. You are in my thoughts! Good luck and keep your head up!
Well we talked last night and she said that how she sees herself is a big part of it. She also said she has zero interest in sex and doesn't really enjoy it anymore since last baby was born. She knows it is breaking us apart but she doesn't know how to fix it.
Unfortunately she also admitted that she slept with someone when I was in hospital last time I was stabbed at work but I was shocked because it was actually a female friend. Yes I feel betrayed but more by the friend than my wife if it makes sense.
I told her we need to talk about this more so I can see if I can forgive her and fix this or not. She has agreed to try counseling or anything.
I also know I'm not going to be drinking like I did yesterday anytime soon because mani feel like crap emotionally and physically lol. Even breathing seems to hurt my head.
Guess I'm just blaming myself d for everything going so wrong. I've been struggling since having a vasectomy and losing a testicle with how see myself as a man. Now all of this to come to terms with. It hurts so much because I do love her so much but inside I'm shattered.
At the moment she is putting the kids to bed and I'm having a spa alone lol. Once the kids are asleep and I'm relaxed she wants to talk some more. I have moved my stuff from the rumpus room to the spare bedroom as I don't want the kids to know much at this stage.
Thanks through for all the support it really means a lot.
My cancer battle has been really hard on her as she lost her nanna to cancer and while I was going through it I never really thought about how she was coping. At the moment I am actually at the fittest I've been in 15yrs and also probably the lightest lol.
We have a lot to work through and I have a lot to deal with beforei can even begin to forgive her but at this stage I want to try. I know it might make me seem like an idiot but I really do love her.