How to teach my son right from wrong...
My son is starting to be mean and hit sometimes i tell him no no but he doesnt stop. Im not sure how to get him to stop. Im guess im just wondering how everyone else deals with it. I mean i was brought up getting my butt whooped and ive tryed that, its not working and makes me feel bad..
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My daughter is almost two she will still try to hit or bite, or another bad behavior, and all I have to do is ask her if she needs a time out. Normally that is enough to calm her.
I really want to pop her on her butt but I know it would be out of anger because the shit hurts... And she knows she's doing wrong because she laughs when she does it...
I started to talk her about being mean and nice. I tell her she's being mean and I don't let her stick her hand down my shirt for comfort when she's mean.
I think she's catching on... I also tell her when she's being nice as well and give her hugs so she can see the difference.
For the record I don't believe in hitting a child bc they hit you. How does that teach them not to hit? Children learn from example, and if you hit it sends the message that hitting a ok bc mommy does it!
@perly Yeah I know im realizing that the way i learned disaplin inst the best way for him to learn it. I just dont know what to do now though. Oh and he is 14 months
@Máthair I will try that i hope he can relize its not a joke or game he deff thinks hitting is a game right now.
@YNVTish Im trying that now. He just hits when i redirct or tell no but i need to stay firm.
@ashley_smashley i agree but for some reason i just went old school the way i was taught. It doesnt work for him though so thats why i made the thread.
@Sand3 Exactly what im going threw!!
If he hits you again, sit him down in a place away from any toys or any kind of entertainment. Place him there for a little over a minute. The first couple of times he will get up and run somewhere else or maybe even hit you again. Don't talk to him or anything, just get him and bring him back to his time out. Keep doing that until he stays there for the whole time assigned. When his time is up, go get him and let him know that hitting is not ok and that he cannot do that anymore.
This will take A LOT of time, but if you are consistent it will work. I know it probably even sounds harsh because he is so little, but this way he will understand that hitting is bad and he needs to stop doing that. Redirection is also a good way of getting him to stop, but i don't know for sure how long it'll work for and if it'll get the point across. Because overall, what you want is for him to understand that what he is doing is bad that way he can stop. BUT, maybe someone who has tried redirection and has been successful can explain exactly how to do it so you can try that first. Im pretty sure it also comes down to being consistent with it.