Lovly visit

Mallory27

So Makenzie's dad came out to see her today. He hasn't seen her since November. Well he isn't welcome in my parents house and I am not going to drive over an hour for him to visit with her so we meet at McDonalds here in my town since he doesn't come up with anything fun for her to do.
Well she is scared to death of him ( this makes me happy lol because i hate him lol) She wouldn't even sit in the highchair because it was next to him. She wanted me to hold her the whole time (which I did) She wouldn't let him touch her and she got pissy when he tried to talk to her even.
He brought her her birther and christmas present. He got her that Violet Vtech bear. Its out of the box and it smells like cat piss and smoke ( his new girlfriend has 7 dogs and 4 cats and Makenzie's dad smokes and I guess his gfs brother smokes too and he lives with them also) so she won't be playing with it because I can't wash it and I can't even return it because he took it out of the box. He also got her an outfit for summer in the size that she is in now....So most likly she won't be wearing that. Then he got her a throw pillow and blanket (like something that would go on a couch lol)

Bright side of the visit he agreed to let me hyphenate her last name to Mecum-Bell I want to just change it to Bell (mine) but wouldn't go for it..

starrxoxo9

I just don't understand how a parent can just give up on their kid and not see them for that long..But at least she has a good mommy!!!

Mallory27

I know I could never not see Makenzie every day it would kill me. She has all this issues and he didn't even ask how things were going. so sad

jules

I to have hard time understanding how parent can do that unless there was work/money issue you know what I mean. And I understand you don't like him I don't blame you at all very normal and the fact that things he got get aren't exactly perfect but it's the thought that counts and at least be tried and I bet if you try meet him half way try to be civil to each other maybe he would do this more often BC the bottom line is he is get father and will always be and it's healthier for her in the long run to have a relationship with him. Im not saying you don't try or anything so please don't take it wrong IM just trying to be encouraging since you can't control him but u can control what you do. And I really think that it's important to reach out since you're daughter can't yet and she sure will be very thankful to you one day. Like I said please don't take it wrong I am only speaking from every I'm reading and trying to be helpful not taking his side at all.

Mallory27

We don't meet half way because he lives in the corn and I am closer to the city where there is more to do. He lived out here with me for over a year so he knows whats out here he just choose to not look around and find something to do with her instead he wants to sit at McDonalds. He didn't even visit with her he sat there and tried to talk to me like we were still together. I am not interested in that at all I am only there so he can see her and he didn't even try even though she was scared of him anyway (which is his fault). I don't reach out to him to come see her because I told him he can see her anytime he wants I work during the week but weekends i am always free and he just never asks. I can't do it for him and im not going to. I wasn't saying that the gifts weren't bad I guess i worded that wrong. my main thing was that they smell terrible (like I didn't even bring them in the house) plus I am getting little from him for child support because he is only getting unemployment. If he has all this money to get her gifts then why don't i get more in child support. She doesn't need a pillow and blanket she needs diapers and whipes.

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jules

Well honestly you telling him he is welcome to see her and your free on weekend is you teaching out and his grown up he can make an effort and if your lo isn't used to him then rather then sitting there he has to see her now often. I mean we have family dinner with my parents every week and we have done that for couple years and my daughter loves my parents but she still has to have minute, to warm up every week they are like after all so if he wants her to be comfortable he has to make an effort. Of I are him I would be out there every weekend and calling every evening even if they cant understand exactly every were saying it's good for voice recognition and just connecting the idea if daddy once a day so it's easier when she does see him. I'm sorry it's hard but u just focus on you guys and don't let the other things get to you. But I am sorry I know it's hard situation

Mallory27

He never calls he never texts only when he wants to come out does he text. He doesn't ask how she is nothing. When we were at McDonalds he didn't ask anything about her just tired to hold her and she wouldn't let him so he just talked about his family or whatever. wasn't really visiting with her

jules

I see....well it's hard situation that's for sure I hope sooner then later he grows up and takes more responsibility but at least his somewhat trying and hasn't totally abandons his daughter.