Uugghhh, i am beyond pissed!!! *vent*
My cousin came from out of town with his wife and kids for spring break. His daughter turns 2 in a couple of days and since he has to head back home tomorrow, he decided to have a small get together to celebrate.
I told my hubby that i wanted to go because i don't get to see them and I wanted to spend time with my family and he agreed that we should go. So we get there and about an hour and half later (if that) hubby starts whining that he's bored, and that he has an upset stomach and that he's uncomfortable and blah blah blah. So i offer him food or something to drink and he says no. So i ask "well what do you wanna do?" and he says "oh well i wanted to maybe spend some time with my cousin."
Needless to say that he's been spending the last 4 days with his cousin....
Seriously?! All im asking is for one night with my family and the best he can do is a freaking hour, but when it comes down to his cousin, i need to be ready to go and expect to spend my whole day over there.
That is so unfair! Aside from that, when we go to his family's house, he always leaves me with the older women (who don't even talk to me) while he's outside with his uncle and cousin. And I suck it up!!! Im so pissed. We ended up coming home right when all my nieces and nephews started playing games and having cake and stuff. I didn't get to enjoy the party.
This so sucks. Now we are home and he starts calling his cousin trying to make plans to go out. Im NOT going anywhere and if he leaves, he better leave a pillow and blanket outside cause he is definitely not sleeping inside.
I told my hubby that i wanted to go because i don't get to see them and I wanted to spend time with my family and he agreed that we should go. So we get there and about an hour and half later (if that) hubby starts whining that he's bored, and that he has an upset stomach and that he's uncomfortable and blah blah blah. So i offer him food or something to drink and he says no. So i ask "well what do you wanna do?" and he says "oh well i wanted to maybe spend some time with my cousin."
Needless to say that he's been spending the last 4 days with his cousin....
Seriously?! All im asking is for one night with my family and the best he can do is a freaking hour, but when it comes down to his cousin, i need to be ready to go and expect to spend my whole day over there.
That is so unfair! Aside from that, when we go to his family's house, he always leaves me with the older women (who don't even talk to me) while he's outside with his uncle and cousin. And I suck it up!!! Im so pissed. We ended up coming home right when all my nieces and nephews started playing games and having cake and stuff. I didn't get to enjoy the party.
This so sucks. Now we are home and he starts calling his cousin trying to make plans to go out. Im NOT going anywhere and if he leaves, he better leave a pillow and blanket outside cause he is definitely not sleeping inside.
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Im not saying that his family is mean to me or anything like that, because they are all wonderful people and they love me too. I don't see it as me making an effort to fit in, because i do it out of love... but why can't he do the same for me?!?! Its not like he has to jump through hoops or anything cause my family already loves him. He's just a big fat baby!
We've talked about this before. I have explained with apples and oranges, just to get my point across. I guess i'll have to do that again tomorrow. And if he doesn't listen, Im gonna start crying lol (he hates making me cry cause Im pregnant lol).
I know if i touch the subject tomorrow, we'll actually be able to talk about it. If i would've tried talking today, it would've started a fight and that's obviously not what i want even if im mad.
(sometimes he reminds me of little kids. like the way they fall asleep in the most random places and ways.)
Lol exactly like little kids. My boyfriend always falls asleep everywhere. He used to do it so much but now not so much. The thing i can't stand about him though is his stubbornness and how he talks about how hard work is but when i say i had a rough day too he says "oh yeah because staying at home with a baby is sooooo hard." That makes me want to punch him! He don't believe that being a sahm is hard work that lasts 24/7 for the rest of your life and he's complaining about a 8-12 hr shift.. please lol
He has come a long way too from when we first got together, but he still has a few things to learn.
We went out for lunch today and we talked. He said he was just getting annoyed and he felt uncomfortable. He said that he still feels shy around my family (after 3 years lol) and that is why he wanted to leave. So then i explained that it was important for me that he makes an effort to let those feelings go because that is also costing me time with my loved ones. I told him that i understand how he feels because i felt that way around his family too, but i made an effort because i love him and i know how much he likes spending time with his family... its only fair that he does the same for me. He said he understood and that he was going to try a little harder. So that was that. Lets see how next time goes lol.
But we talked today, and he understood how important it is for me that he doesn't do that anymore.