Fertility Speciallist? Thoughts and questioning (venting)

Val

ok well those that know my story--
ive been ttc for about 6 years now--
my OB thought it was me a for a while.. ends up thinking it was my bf
Hes been to urologist *dR SAIS HIS NUMBERS ARE FINE

SO it seems like its unexplained infertilty wegot reerred to a Fertility specialist

& now imkinda alil "if-y"

im about to turn 25 im still young i recognize that
im not married to my bf YET (hoping its soon)
a FS is espenssive-- just to see him for a consulatation is 350/HR

and now im scared what if we put all this money down go thru our options and nothing comes out of it--
or what if we do spend the money i end up having a miracle baby and my relationship falls apart (NOTHING IS WRONG WITH IT NOW LIKE IM JUST "THINKING" VENTING IM A LIL SCARED ABOUT ALL OF THIS)

maybe its not "our time" and going against GODS time and things dont work out

idk im scared a want a baby--we want a baby!!

sry this mks no sence im just over thinking

sands3

If your having doubts about seeing a specialist, wait a little longer. Like you said, your young and,have plenty of time. That is a lot of money and I'm sure your time will come..don't you already have 1 child?

jules

I agree if their are any questions in your heart I would wait longer, like you said still young have lots time try to not think about this coming cycle have lots fun things planned for you two these things happen when you least expect it. We had our first before we were married and continued having unprotected sex since we knew we wanted more. Well never were "trying" but it didn't happen. we recently got married and it has been amazing to just enjoy the things God has blessed us with. We had beadutiful wedding thanks to family, then my husband finally got job after looking for year and half and us struggling, then we got super lucky on a new house there was such big list of people and we were chosen, and then we figured now will actually start ttc and I over thought it in February then decided to stop worrying and God will bless us when it's time. We had sex twise in the whole month of March bc of his work schedule once day after af left then once during what ended up being my fertile week but since I wasn't paying attention I didn't know. So technically only took once and we were blessed and it was month I decided to let go and leave it in God's hands. I really think that's exactly what you need and your right about His timing. I really wish you the best with whatever you do! And I hope that if marriage what you want with him then it happens soon

candy101

I grew up with a woman (dads best friends wife) who tried and never had success. She did the calender, temperature, what else idk I was only 15-16 when They stopped talking. I know she never had any luck bc they seen each other at a funeral. Her husband for all I know got fixed behind her back, I messed around with him a couple times and nothing happened. It is not like he was straight with her. That being said they are in their late forties now. I would see the doctor if I was u. Worst case you waste the money best case you find out he can help u. Has your ob done any testing. When we thought we were having trouble they wanted to check the acidity of my cervical mucus and of course start clomid. We were just ridiculously bad at timing it. Had I went on fertility treatment I might be on the news for multiple multiples.lol

Personally even at your age I would want to know why. It may be nothing or it may be major and you need to save money to pay for what ever u need.

LeviLuv8

Maybe the baby wants you married? then maybe the thoughts of your relationship crumbling would disappear and you would become pregnant. My sil tried for 5 years they did everything took out a loan did invitro and now have 16m old twin girls

Val

@sands3 yes I have a almost 7 year old from a previous relatinship
@jules you made me tear up..everything you said is right...I might hold off a lil longer on the fertility dr and try to enjoy my relationship more. I do want a wedding and maybe us being married will do us good.
@candy101 ive done all the test I can possibly do I guess I have that unexplain fertility
@LeviLuv8 the baby is wants us married that's the cutest thing I've heard...you really made smile

jules

Honestly I can't say that getting married to fix things up little is for everyone but man was that for me and my hubby I mean we weren't unhappy or anything but there was just frustrations that would come up for the silliest things and it all came down to biblically he didn't have to have that next level respect I was craving from him bc that respect is said to be given to a wife not gf ya know. Yes he had respect but he even said it one time something like I don't have to do that were not married and it bothered me until I talked it out with my dad whose a pastor and said wekk his right his not united to you and hasn't made that promise infront of God. And I finally gave in and said yes to getting married I needed time to make sure I was ready hehe but once we did we haven't had that kind of an issue since then which would normally happen like every other day. Keep in mind I'm sensitive lol. It sounds like ur where I was before we got married and I think u guys should talk. Tell him u wanna take it easy on ttc possibly and just focus on ur relationship and maybe take the next step see how he reacts and u will know what to do.

Val

Yes you totally understand me I want that otherlevel in our relationship and o totally wat youmean about the respect thing..we've talked about marriage a lot lately for the past couple of months. He says he's ready but he says je wants to get ame a nice ring so he says he has to save.. I'm like no lets go down to the court lol he's like yyeeea no lol he says if I'm getting married its gna be nice lol @jules

jules

I know what u mean my hubby was the same way bc at first I was the one who wanted to get married and then he wanted to make it special for me but then he realized he was ready and that as long as I was happy then that was my idea of special ya know. And although I got the nice ring it was at the last minute lol. But even then we still had small wedding at a beautiful lake with just close family and now we get to plan the reception. Before the wedding I thought maybe his right and I will regret it but soo not true having to know like we have each other forever and our family to support us is soo much better then anything. And plus like we still get to do everything that others usually do at once but after this baby is born. There's always time to have a renuwel if u feel like u want to have something bigger. We always knew although the ceramony was amazing and I had dress and everything that for our receptions I'm gonna get another dress and do another cake and flowers and bridesmaids and gromsmen and dancing and yummy food. And I don't regret it at all I feel like I'm actually lucky bc I get it all we had the intimate family things which many don't get and it was soo special I just can't explain it, and we still get to have the big celebration too. I mean u could tell him that the ring and things are just materialistic things and that's not what marriage is about yes I love my ring and its fun to have but like I said before I could totally go without it and still be perfectly happy I hope he can see what ur trying to communicate.

Roxy

I tryed for 6 years and nothing we kept telling r selfs God has plans he well bless us when the time is right well deep n side I know I might have a hormone problem sure enough i did I think I made the right choice never giving up cause it was a problem with my health if I would of never tryed to fix it I wouldn't have my son its ur choice to relaxe or go get help

sands3

Then yea, maybe it's just not the right time. Praying it will be soon though!

novmom2be

My husband and I tried for 9 years! No doctors no nothing. He has a cardiac arrest at 19 and was in a coma for a wk. So I.assume his body just.went out of whack due to that. I asked my Gyn and I was fine. But left it alone. Finally yr 9. We have up and decided to just enjoy each other. Went to Nyc for a trip and month later I was pregnant!!! I was a mess with so much emotions. Couldn't believe it. But we now hv a healthy 17mth old daughter and expecting another Nov 16. I firmly believe miracles will happen when you least expect them Goodluck to you!!! No stressing lol. Praying for you