Im thinking about giving my baby up f for adoption i haven't really been feeling this pregnancy the whole time and i just don't feel any kind of connection like it was with my first
I don't feel like I did with my first pregnancy either but I think its very normal, I know once my baby is born I will fall in love with him just the way I did with his brother. Now if he's born and u still feel that way then maybe you should go the adoption route and give that baby to someone that could love and show them the affection they deserve and need.
I never felt the "motherly, rub my belly, super excited" connection with either of my pregnancies. I'm just not emotional like that. But once the babies were here it all kicked in.
I agree with @excitedforoctober but this is big thing especially since you already have one. Maybe u need to figure out why your feeling this way all feelings come from some where I think if u have a chance to sit talk with someone and find that answer it will help you a lot weather that be nvm about adoption or it will give u peace that this might have to happen.
With my second pregnancy I felt the same way, I even cried to my mom a few times saying I didnt love this baby like I love my daughter and I would never feel the same about him...but once he got here I truly love them equally!! They are gods little gifts to keep me keepin on lol
That's probably why you feel like that. Because your bf isn't excited about the pregnancy. What exactly do you feel? Do you actually feel like you don't love this baby or are you scared about something and that's why you feel like this?
Its true, i think the second pregnancy doesn't always have the same effect as the first one. Maybe its because its an experience we already had before... i don't know. But think it over very carefully.
I think with the first u have time to day dream about ur lo, but the second you are to busy to just sit around dreaming. I was twenty weeks before I even had the time to realize I was pregnant let alone 20 weeks
It's ok give your baby up for adoption. I think it's a very selfless act! If you keep feeling this way there is such a thing as pregnancy depression you should talk to your doctor. Don't be embarrassed about it, it's completely normal. I was very depressed with my last one. I felt the same way and didn't even tell my family till I was 6 months. He's here now and I love him as much as my others. It does get better, but if for some reason you think it's too much for you and your feelings don't change, a family will be very grateful to you for giving them a baby! Hugs mama!!!
Yea i didn't tell anyone until 6 months either. And when i went for a ultrasound i didn't even get to see his face. But hopefully these 2 months can go by
I think u should talk to ur doc and if u can see specialist that be great if not ur regular doc is good too. And I really think from what u said so far it could be BC of your bf we all tend to take the feelings of others around us especially if his the main person you talk to. Until you talk to your doc were here to listenand I suggest sitting down all by yourself and write whatever comes to you. By the end u might realize something or when ur done read it over see if you can pin point where it's coming from it will most likely be something u will mention couple of times that's how our brain works. And don't be hard on yourself as you can see lots have had same feelings. My husband and I were ttc so IM not in same shoes but I kinda feel bad for my daughter since it won't be all about her, but then I think how happy she will be having sibling to play with all the time. Maybe u can make a positive list see if that changes anything.
That happened with my second. I felt like how can I love him if I loved my daughter... I felt guilty like my daughter would feel 'replaced' but once he was born Iwwouldn't change it for anything! Maybe check out your options but really think hard .
It happened with my second kid too. With my first I was all excited called the baby by her name. Talked to her all the time when I was alone. With my second. Maybe its because I got pregnant t so fast with him right after I had my daughter that I was just afraid of what was to come. Both my husband I worked on different shifts and I had some major PPD after my daughter was born. I cried in sadness after my pregnancy was confirmed. There was one point I actually thought if something was to happen to this baby I probably wouldn't care. I totally regret ever thinking that. I don't know why I would since my first one was a miscarriage. But anyways it wasn't towards the end that I started to feel excited about the arrival. I would talk to the Dr about it. One of the nurses at my ob just asked me one day how I was doing while she was taking my blood pressure and I just started to cry and tell her everything I was feeling. My Dr was pretty helpful about the whole thing. I do hope you feel better with whatever choice you make.
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Its true, i think the second pregnancy doesn't always have the same effect as the first one. Maybe its because its an experience we already had before... i don't know. But think it over very carefully.
There was one point I actually thought if something was to happen to this baby I probably wouldn't care. I totally regret ever thinking that. I don't know why I would since my first one was a miscarriage. But anyways it wasn't towards the end that I started to feel excited about the arrival. I would talk to the Dr about it. One of the nurses at my ob just asked me one day how I was doing while she was taking my blood pressure and I just started to cry and tell her everything I was feeling. My Dr was pretty helpful about the whole thing. I do hope you feel better with whatever choice you make.