Child Support....
S/O asked me "IF we were to ever break up would you sue for child support?"
At first I was kinda upset as to why he would ask such a question. Then I brushed it off and answered.
"IF we broke up and you were still taking care of our son. Not only providing money, but giving the love and attention he needs from you. Then no I wouldn't 'sue' for child support. BUT if you up and sudden chuck us the deuces I'm 'suing' you for child support. Why'd you ask?"
He said his friend and his ex-wife have two kids and the kids stays with him, yet his ex-wife wants to take the kids back and sue for child support because her new boyfriend says the kids should be with their mother and this way her new BF won't have to get a job because the child support money will take care of all of them. S/O friend does has a very nice paying job.
I would never 'sue' for child support if he is doing his job as a father just to get more money. His friends ex-wife is selfish and delusional if she thinks she's getting the kids back. Obviously the courts deemed her unfit if the kids are with the father.
At first I was kinda upset as to why he would ask such a question. Then I brushed it off and answered.
"IF we broke up and you were still taking care of our son. Not only providing money, but giving the love and attention he needs from you. Then no I wouldn't 'sue' for child support. BUT if you up and sudden chuck us the deuces I'm 'suing' you for child support. Why'd you ask?"
He said his friend and his ex-wife have two kids and the kids stays with him, yet his ex-wife wants to take the kids back and sue for child support because her new boyfriend says the kids should be with their mother and this way her new BF won't have to get a job because the child support money will take care of all of them. S/O friend does has a very nice paying job.
I would never 'sue' for child support if he is doing his job as a father just to get more money. His friends ex-wife is selfish and delusional if she thinks she's getting the kids back. Obviously the courts deemed her unfit if the kids are with the father.
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Both of our parents are divorced and he had an extremely hard childhood, so i know that would never be my case because he doesn't want his baby to go through what he went through.
I seriously hate women that make decisions based on what works better for them than what is best for the child.
Yes women like her piss me the hell off.
@monkey_girl I have been know to throw that around too minus the alimony, but only in really extremely heated arguments.
If he is doing his job why sue just for extra money in your pocket that you know you're not going to spend on the child/kids.
Did nothing to see my daughters or even call them or helping in any aspects I called him once because I needed money for my daughter back to school stuff and he had the balls to tell me no! WTFFFFFFFFFFFF after 2 years I never ask him for anything and he could not buy some stuff for my daughters .... needless to say the next day I went to the child support office!
Im happy I did I also went to get full sole custody !
@Mythica, @Wilsomom, @candy101, @2girls_2boys, @capivated: S/O and I aren't married so if he leaves there is nothing the courts can do about it unless I go and file for it. I don't really get much government assistance just Medicaid. The courts don't care much about that.
I do know if I filed for LINK the courts would get involved and S/O already said if I have to sue for child support (because of LINK and etc) to help put food in our child's mouth he had no problem with that, if we broke up.
Yes I know things are different once the situation actually approaches, but it is nice knowing that if we didn't make it he would still be there for the child. He agreed that if child support is needed he would pay up. But like I said it still different once the situation approaches.
Trust me though if he is not doing his job as a father, if we break up, I am filing for child support. I promised him that.
I have told my husband I wanted two kids I put all these years of my life into him, he was giving my babies and doing his job. He wanted kids way before though. If I would have started sooner I might have had 4-5 and that's a dcary thought. As it is we will have two in college for two years at the same time.
As long as he understands he is their daddy then that's all that matters. It doesn't sound like he is the man that walks away n never looks back(not that u would let him).