any oilfield wives?

firstTimeMommy0928

So women think it's awesome to be an oilfield wife and it somewhat is since I'm able to be a stay at home mom of 2 little ones and we were able to afford a home and pay off 2 cars by the age of 19 and 23 but what they dont see is the fact that we are physically single parents 85% of the time. We have to either have 2 separate holiday/birthday celebrations or have it on a completely different day. When my first born was 2 months old, my husband had to move 3&1/2 hrs away for 12 days at a time and 4 days off for 4 months so he had to watch our daughter grow thru video, pics, and video calls. Now my second is almost 2 months and convieniently he has to go back to that location for who knows how long for a week at a time. I feel the anxiety building. Anybody else go through this?

Star4221

My father in law is working as a truck dispatcher for the oil rigs in nd. He works 7 on 7 off and has to commute 8 hours or so to get home. It really sucks that he is gone. I know my mil even though already nutty, this puts her over the edge! I couldnt imagine being in your shoes! Hang in there, you are doing great!

Fate

My husband was the guy that comes before the oil fielders (he finds the oil, seismic). He worked 2300 miles away, for 8 weeks at a time. He came home for 10 days, then went back for another 8 weeks. I saw my husband for a total of 60 days ever year. For 6 years (2,190 days) straight. So out of 6 years he worked there, I saw him for a total of 360 days, that's less than a year. I would have traded scenarios with you any day!

firstTimeMommy0928

I just think its funny when women tell me "your so lucky & I wish I had a man that had that job" no lol I would much rather have him here more then money especially with an almost 2 yr old and almost 2 mth old not even for help but it makes me said when I have to show him videos of his daughters first milestones& @Fate I would be beside myself. .I doubt we would have any children right now if I was in that situation

2ndtimearound

I would hate that, my husband works the graveyard shift & iI get mad cuz he sleeps thru half the day when he's home. I can't imagine him being gone days or weeks at a time.it must be kinda lonely for you.

babyinblack682

My husband is a frac supervisor with a 14/7 schedule its terrible we have 3 under 5

Fate

Haha. We have 4 kids and one on the way. He got a different job so I see him every single day now.

brodysmamma

My fiancé has been looking for a job in ND, I'm emotionally preparing myself for when his friend calls and says he has a job. Idk what his schedule will be like but we live in Wa state so I don't think we will be able to see each other often this is something he has been considering doing for the 4 years we have been together and even before we got together. I want him to stay home but I know he will regret not going and The little bit of unselfishness in me wants him to do it.

2girls_2boys

Omg girl I couldn't take that my hb works 7am to 3pm and I have 3 kids and 29 weeks pregnant and I can't take hb not been home !