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So my mil is someone who thinks her way is the best way (and the only way) things shoukd be done. I've always wanted a big family but once I had my first and really understood how expensive children are I said I woukd settle with 3. We currently have two a boy and girl. My mil has made it very clear that she thinks we should stop now. The we found out our second was a girl the fiest thing she said literally was "Yay a girl, you have one of each now get your tubes tide". I have made it very clear to her we are having a third. In july we announced we were pregnant with our third but unfortunately miscarried. When we announced her mouth hung open like she was trying to catch flies! She said "congrats if this is what you want but but you have no idea how hard 3"is" I kept my mouth shut but I should of said "well neither do you seeing as you only had two". I'm not the neatest person in the world my laundey piles up there are toys all over but to me its nothing disgusting you can just tell we live in a house with two small children 
. Me and my husband only fight about obe thing really and its cleaning. He thinks since I only work 3 days a week that our house should be spotless (likes his mom kept their home growing up). We argue about this maybe once a month at the most and it usually occurs if I've been out a few days in a row and dishes start to pile and the clutter builds up. Well we argued about it last weekend and I made the mistake opening up to his mom about it. I made a comment that we don't really argue but when we do its always about the same thing. She asked what and I said cleaning. She said "well no surprise there! So why don't you keep the house clean if that will make michael happy?"so ignored the question and I changed the subject. So Thursday night I'm at work and get a call from ny husband saying I need to come home vc our 8 month old is burning up and crying for two hours straight and her heart is pounding out of her chest. So I rush home to give her tylenol and sooth her. She was teething and popped two teeth that night. My husband and baby fall asleep on the couch and I grab his phone to take a picture of them and his text messages are open to his mom. She had sent pictures of the kids so I scroll through the pictures and then I get to a conversation that goes like this (sue is my mil and mike is my husband.
Sue: how's it going?
Mike: alright we are all a little sick though
Sue: aw I wish I could take care of you. Is katrina at work?
Mike: yes, I think we are coming to vusit sunday and watch football If that's ok.
Sue: yes that would be good bring your laundry. I miss the kids they are so darn cute!
Mike: lol bring laundry? And if they are so cute why don't you want us to have another one?
Sue:I'm serious bring laundry! Unless Katrina is stepping up. She can't organize the two kids you have or keep up with laundry now lots of things need to change before you guys bring another bsby into this world.
Sue: the diaper bag needs to be cleaned out. Grayson needs good gym shoes for his feet and he needs a haircut!
Sue: maybe grayson and emersyn should just come live with me.
Sue: you do make cute babies though.
Mike never responded to any of her texts. I started crying as soon as I read them. Like she thinks I'm this horrbile mom bc my house is a little messy. She has said inappropriate things to me since me and mike started dating but this was the straw that broke the camels back and I finally spoke up and said something to her! Thanks for listening ladies I just wanted to get your opinions and feelings on the matter. What would you do?
. Me and my husband only fight about obe thing really and its cleaning. He thinks since I only work 3 days a week that our house should be spotless (likes his mom kept their home growing up). We argue about this maybe once a month at the most and it usually occurs if I've been out a few days in a row and dishes start to pile and the clutter builds up. Well we argued about it last weekend and I made the mistake opening up to his mom about it. I made a comment that we don't really argue but when we do its always about the same thing. She asked what and I said cleaning. She said "well no surprise there! So why don't you keep the house clean if that will make michael happy?"so ignored the question and I changed the subject. So Thursday night I'm at work and get a call from ny husband saying I need to come home vc our 8 month old is burning up and crying for two hours straight and her heart is pounding out of her chest. So I rush home to give her tylenol and sooth her. She was teething and popped two teeth that night. My husband and baby fall asleep on the couch and I grab his phone to take a picture of them and his text messages are open to his mom. She had sent pictures of the kids so I scroll through the pictures and then I get to a conversation that goes like this (sue is my mil and mike is my husband. Sue: how's it going?
Mike: alright we are all a little sick though
Sue: aw I wish I could take care of you. Is katrina at work?
Mike: yes, I think we are coming to vusit sunday and watch football If that's ok.
Sue: yes that would be good bring your laundry. I miss the kids they are so darn cute!
Mike: lol bring laundry? And if they are so cute why don't you want us to have another one?
Sue:I'm serious bring laundry! Unless Katrina is stepping up. She can't organize the two kids you have or keep up with laundry now lots of things need to change before you guys bring another bsby into this world.
Sue: the diaper bag needs to be cleaned out. Grayson needs good gym shoes for his feet and he needs a haircut!
Sue: maybe grayson and emersyn should just come live with me.
Sue: you do make cute babies though.
Mike never responded to any of her texts. I started crying as soon as I read them. Like she thinks I'm this horrbile mom bc my house is a little messy. She has said inappropriate things to me since me and mike started dating but this was the straw that broke the camels back and I finally spoke up and said something to her! Thanks for listening ladies I just wanted to get your opinions and feelings on the matter. What would you do?
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I know how you feel I'd much rather have time with my boy while he's young before he realizes how embarrassing and boring I am and wants to spend all his time with friends or girls and is all grown up. The house work can wait for a little bit while you enjoy the good years
I hope it gets better for you
I'd be super cautious of anything between you and her again, especially In regards to your kiddos.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. Its such absolute bullshit.
@sheentahlea
What you texted Michael yesterday was incredibly hurtful! You have no right telling us we shouldn't have a third baby until I get organized. Especially since I recently miscarried a baby that we were very much excited for. I'm so upset that michael and me opened up to you about our arguments about cleaning. That is between us and should of stayed that way. Just because I have a messy house doesn't make me a bad mother!!! Grayson has gym shoes and I like his hair long! You act like Michael has it so rough with me and saying the kids should come live with you because of it is not nice, even if you are kidding. There are more important things in life than a clean house!
She kind of played victim and said she meant both of us need to change our ways and she meant to wait to try until we are settled in our new house (that we are closing on in 20 days!!!) But it was like a half ass apology and then she said she is just a mother who worries about her kids and grandkids and she always thinks of them when she is out shopping! (Like she can buy our love)
Queenie and Big Daddy. I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds something wrong with those names.
My MIL didn't want to apologize either. She acted like I was bullying her. Just continue to stand your ground. Mine keeps trying to intimidate me. Deep breaths get me through a lot of days. Lol
Good luck to you all.