what to do..? confused not ready to b a mom!

sweetness06

Ok jus found out I'm pregnant yesterday...I'm 4wks,but Idk what to do I'm 23 & a junior in college...I have so many plans for my future by now all my hopes & dreams seems crushed my bf & I been together for a yr but I we've knwn one another since we were 12 but neither 1 of us is ready for a child right now...thoughts??

Summz

Were. The two of u using protection or a form of birth control? There certainly are.options hun, and just because ur pregnant doesn't mean ur dreams are crushed. Just breath ok, there is adoption for those who are interested!

expectingbabynumber3

Its goin to be ok. Finished college first. There are a lot of girls that r pregnant in college. U can still go for ur goals. U can still make ur dreams come true. Just keep ur head up

mommy2audrey

Take a day to yourself and think about everything, relax. It can be scary.

A baby planed or not can be the best thing that has ever happened to you

cheryl74

Well hunny you have options. Tbh I don't think anyone is ever ready to be a mum but when it does happen it just comes naturally. But you need to think seriously about your choices. You can have the baby and believe me you will cope, or you could look into adoption or a termination. I'm not here to judge and believe every woman has choices. You just need to make sure whatever choice you make is the right one for you. I had my first child at 21 and didnt think I could.cope but it all worked out and she is now my best friend x

vette_devil

I would consider adoption. There are so many wonderful families out there who can't have children of their own & would give your baby a wonderful life. Some of them are also able & willing to pick up the tab for prenatal care & delivery.

keelz

At the end of thee day its your chouce i had my first at 23 i was a flight attendant living in rhe middle east traveling around the world im originally frim australia, i met my husband there who is american. I had everything my job a great bf ect when i found out i was pregnant i so was not ready to be a mum let alone leave my dream job. Miy bf told me he wanted me to keep it give up everything and move to america with him. He was ib the military and was going back to the states for good and i was on leave in Australia when i found out i was pg....long story short i gave up everything moved to america had my son and never looked back it was the best decision i have made. We have been married for five years now 2 sons and a daughter on the way...just because you have children dosnt mean your worlds going to end you can still live your life....i was still flying up until 3 months ago i have gf who found out they were pregnant amd at school and still went to school...i know your scared ot is scary but when u have that baby in your arns it so worth it trust ne kiss make your life so much better :-D hope that helps

mrs_rodney

You will be fine just remember to communicate with your bf its a decision you need to make together or it probably won't last. Good luck.

jazzi89

I mean it is ur personal choice there Is adoption and although its not something I would do abortion is another option. But just because ur pregnant doesn't mean ur life is ruined
My baby def wasn't planned I got pregnant while on birth control and after being told I couldn't have kids only a week after I met my bf. We've only been together since nov 29 but I'm keeping the baby n still doin wat I had planned fr my future

CrumbledCookie

you don't have to give up on your dreams, they may be post-poned, depending on your overall situation, but everything is still possible. I agree with @mrs_rodney keep the lines of communication wide open and no matter what anyone else says it is ultimately your choice....i watch my friends and some girls a lil younger than me go through this everyday, just stay focused and determined and everything will work out

jcmommy

I don't think anyone is ready to be a mom. I'm on my 2nd and is still nervous about how I'm going to handle two at a time. But once baby is here, it all kicks in and you'll learn how to manage your time to fit baby in your schedule.. good luck.