babydad not agreeing with babies name

mami_of1_n1ontheway

Well I'm almost 28 weeks pregnant.. me and my unborn son's father are on & off.. he hasn't been there much since I found out I was pregnant and he's mad because "I chose the babys name w/o him" and he doesn't like it.. I told him I wasn't gonna change it and he said he wasn't gonna sign the babys birth certificate.. He's acting like an a**hole. Should I just say eff him & say whatever to his bs?? Heeellllpppp! LOL!

ashes

Well... it IS his kid too... you should still get some input fom him for the name. Like the bd or not, the baby is half of both of you and he should get some say in it... last name do whatever you want, if you keep breaking up maybe you should consider yours or hyphenated last name

[Deleted User]

I think you should say whatever to his bs....bc honestly it sounds like he is just trying to find something to use as an excuse for him being a deadbeat. But if he wants to be active you should let him.

Dont let it stress you. Good luck.

mami_of1_n1ontheway

Yea I was thinking the samething.. but its like sooo much more to the "story" .. he has another babymom & he always spending time with his "son" and neverrrr spends time with me and only has come to one doctor visit with me, and another thing I'm puertorican & he's black so the name has to be spanglish beings tho half of my family doesn't know ANY english n I had a harrrrdddd time trying to find a name that I actually liked... idk

trying4first

if he hasnt been there much.. it wont change after your son is born. it might for a few weeks but i doubt much longer than that. so say whatever to his BS and if he wont sign the birth certificate, your son will have your last name and you can start a petition of paternity right now and make his butt pay child support because it doesnt sound like he will be around for his son...

[Deleted User]

Yah dont let drama stress you, if he decides he wants to play games let him play it alone. Bc honestly no real man would refuse to sign a birth certificate just bc of a name.

But again if he wants to have an active role in his childs life you should take advantage of that, bc a lot of women wish their bd will take interest.

mami_of1_n1ontheway

Yeah I know... this is my second child and I never had a dumb problem like this with my daughters dad... I'm just gonna say eff it.. I already told him if he gonna be there good, if not eff it the court will take care of it & child support will be involved... I'm a strong woman and I don't let a imature mothaf**** ruin my peace and happiness.. its his lost if he doesn't wanna be in his sons life... I'm blessed regardless if he there or not.... thank u guys cuz I thought I was being a little selfish.. but I would be selfish if he was there for me & if he was playing his part the way it should be played...