need inlaw advice

nikalia2626

Ok EVERYONE needs inlaw advice but seriously I need help.

I'm an only child with few cousins. My husband is the second of two children in his family. His brother has always been favored and considered the #1 child. Because my bro in law was held "to much" they decided not to hold my husband at all as a baby and child.

Well past is past fast forward 30 years. They favor my bro in laws children over mine and make it sooooo obvious. They got my older son the same gift for his birthday and for christmas (they are 2 weeks apart!)

My husband is in total denial but admits it if I really push. They refuse to adhere to food restrictions we put on the kids (pop, candy,) even allergy foods end up in their mouths. Now that our youngest is 2 they wonder why he doesn't run to them or play with them. I don't have the heart to say its because they didn't even show up at the hospital for his birth. They saw him 3 times before he turned 1.

How do I handle these people. My husband thinks they are amazing people!!

dobiemomma

God hunny! I have the EXACT same situation!! Its taken me 4yrs but somehow u need to accept they are different and will never be how u want them. I'm preggo with baby #2 and its sad they don't care or appreciate the grandkids but try to find peace that u will never change them, they will never change. when I got to that stage its gotten easier to deal with. Sorry that's not much help. Good luck

mommyof3girls

Ugh... i hate to say this but ... im so glad im not alone w having a*hole inlaws. Sry u gotta deal w this. Dont think theres much u can do. Just gotta deal but make sure u stand firm when it comes to YOUR kiddos.... easier said than done. Hang in there. It just sucks. Some people dont get it. Life is precious. For family to act that way is messed up.