Anyone else having baby w/ thier boyfriend and NOT thinking about marriage
my catholic family isnt thrilled that im having a baby out of wedlock but they are still supportive. I believe having a baby with someone and getting married to someone are completely seperate things. Ive seen too many women getting married for the wrong reasons. Including my mother. Maybe thats why I dont think its a good idea to become engaged while ur pregnant or BECAUSE ur pregnant. I mean if ur happy and ready it doesnt really matter. I was just wondering if theres anyone on here who is fine with how things are with ur boyfriend or whoever ur preggo with and isnt rushing into a marriage bcuz of it. I am in no way saying that if u are getting married n u happen to be pregnant, that ur rushing. I just see alot of women talking about husbands and fiancees, was wondering if anyones in the same boat as meee 
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We had been engaged for three years when we decided to have a baby. Then his mom apparently got all anxious about getting married. We hadn't really planned on getting married. But we do look forward to a great tax refund next year.
I do feel a little pushed into marriage, but we didn't put up much of a fight against it. I am a little let down that I will be 6 months preggo at my wedding and probably won't enjoy it as much as I otherwise would. And that my maternity dress options were limited.
But I am happy to finally be able to call my fiance my husband. And stop telling people we're going for the longest engagement when they ask when we are getting married. And we will have a buffet, so I can stuff my face in with delicious foods. And my mom found a really elegant, gorgeous dress at maternitybride.com.
I think our main excuse for not getting married earlier was that we couldn't afford our dream wedding. But my parents stepped up and decided to get traditional on us and pay for everything. And they can afford our dream wedding. Especially because mom and I are both creative, and can cut costs by making a lot of stuff ourselves. And we have simple tastes.
I'm really excited for my sunflower themed wedding in June 4.
@kkmommy yea Id say no too at least right now. But I dont think hed ask cuz he knows how I feel. Im only 19 and soooo not ready for a lifetime commitment to a man hes 23 and doesnt seem to care abt it so yay! Im perfectly happy and so very in love
I am in grave financial debt, and he has very good credit and no debt, so that must definitely be worked out beforehand. There are also things that he needs to fix with himself before he ever considers it. Like my bf doesn't like to be around my family. Does not fly with me. He also thinks certain things or perceives situations in ways that are completely unacceptable for us to be able to live together. And the third is a very personal issue that must be dealt with for me to consider spending the rest of my life with him.
Right now we are on a play-by-ear relationship. I would love to marry this boy eventually but there is just so much to work on first.
And I've got problems with long term relationships. Even friendships. I alienate people. I think it's from being a military brat and never knowing anyone for very long. You're always preparing for that next PCS. And from growing up watching my parents screaming at eachother. Lord help us, my man won't let me push him away.