There are "fake urine" things that they sell. He could of purchased one of them. You wear it against your body for a few hours to warm it up, some of them even have a tube so it looks like you are peeing.
There is a device called a dopplwewanger esentaly its a fake penis conected to a tube with a ack of clean urine. Maybe have your husband watch him retake it and don't tell him your going to give it to him just spring it on him and have random surprise drug test so he can't prep up for them
I can't believe they sell all this stuff, that's crazy lol. I'm actually getting ready to confront him right now about him drinking all the water that day to pass it. He'll probably deny it so I'll say prove it, let's take this other test. I really wish he'd just be honest with me, but he knows I disapprove of what he's doing so probably feels like he can't. He said he'd be up in a minute...I'm nervous..lol
Most over the counter tests include a lab test. Send it in. Lab tests can detect trace amounts that the dipstick may not read. Or have him pee again and send it in. It does sound like he was drinking water to flush his system for the test...
Vinegar will do that too tell him if he won't pee again then Ull do a mouth swab test that will go back further or a hair folical test that goes back 5 years of course those can get spendy. Or iadine pills (missed spelled)orknown more as water retention pills will too but I don't know if they would know about those my father unlawful passed his test using them they work in one day
No problem the ones my probation officer gave we're just the dip stick ones too. I just drank a lot of water that day to dilute my pee. I only failed one and it was because I didn't know she was coming it was a random one the rest were scheduled once a month. Good luck!
I finally had to go to bed last night I couldn't wait any longer. I will try the blood test, but I know he won't willingly go. & if I drive him there without telling him then he just won't get out of the car. He's that stubborn. I don't know what other leverage to use. & when it's positive, then what? I took him to an outpatient rehab a couple months ago & he wouldn't sign any paperwork or cooperate. He's basically made up his mind that he doesn't want help or care. I've tried the killing him with kindness method & I've tried the grounding his *ss from everything method. Nothing works. Do I need to take his friends away? Even if it means moving or home school? He said if I did that he would hate me forever & never forgive me & that having no friends would ruin his life forever. Ugh, I hate this.
Yup friends are a privilege not a right, can't behave? Oh well, looks like you're hangin out at home w mom. And a little drop of bleach will clear a drug test. Teen or not, watch him pee, I'm a grown adult and I've had to pee in front of people to get a job and I wasn't even in trouble. Don't worry what he says, that's manipulation. He's going to say whatever he knows will bother you to keep you off of his back and he can have his cake and eat it too. You're the parent, YOU make the rules and he has to abide by them. Send him to a military boarding school if he's that hard headed and refuses to listen. He's a minor he'll have no say. And if he says he'll hate you, would you rather him have that resentment or end his ass up in prison? Because once he's an adult an "I'm sorry" won't fly, he'll be a big boy that's going to have to follow big boy laws.
I totally agree with above, my mom took everything from me and I had to get off my ass and get a Job to buy a cell phone and buy a bedroom door back. She threw my boyfriend out on the street but hey we learned and I respect my parents to the end of time. If it were my kid he wouldn't see a party or his friends ever again. And he wouldn't mouth off either I'd take everything right down to dessert. But I'm mean that way to lol
@thehumancrockpot & @everyone thanks, I have taken his door, phone, the internet, cleared his room of everything but clothes & bed, no phone etc. And I just recently started letting him have friends over again & he went out with friends twice...with me dropping him off & picking him up myself. I think because of our neighborhood he can meet up with friends at any time. That's what all the teens around here do, walk to each others houses & around the neighborhood. It's so annoying because some of them try to come over almost every day & some don't even knock. I'll have to put signs on the door. I'm about to home school, but my state requires yearly testing & I don't want to get in trouble & not be able to home school the younger kids. I know he won't do the work....he already gets D's & F's in public school. Sorry so long, I'm doing a lot of thinking out loud here. It helps me figure things out in my mind..lol
Im a harsh parent... I would call the policr dept and ask for an escort officer to take him. I know some officers will use thier time off to help parents. If my child (hypathetically since my oldest is six) refused drug rehab care I would seek a court order to force him/her into it. Or put em in a bootcamp type schooling. But I am tough and do not tollerate drug use at any level...
Sorry if that sounds bad.. I am not bashibg you in anyway shape or form.. I can tell you're really trying to help him. Sometimes tough love is needed though..
@lilbit01_209 That's not too harsh..the police escort is a great idea, thanks! I've done what I can as far as court unless he gets in more trouble... I wish the courts would help me. Actually, I could probably file unruly charges again, maybe that would do it. Now you got me thinking.
Well if he pops positive again you can inform the courts and ask for bootcamp or inpatient rehab... be strong. I cant guarentee it will get better in the future (cause nothing is 100%) but its worth it if it can change him...
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I would surprise him with a random test.