Anyone have advice ?
I seriously feel like I'm in a horrible depression. Sometimes i feel awesome and I'm full of energy but other days i really don't want to get out of bed and i force myself too for Lana's sake. I know its because I'm lonely constantly. Andy works 12 hours each day, so I'm alone all day long with my daughter. Which I don't mind but when he is home he's constantly talking about work or texting someone at work or were arguing. I can't manage to keep my house straightened up or even unpack because either my daughter or my bf is right behind me messing it up. My daughter don't like to play in her pack and play but when she's in there I'm already exhausted from cleaning and cooking. I'm happy he has a job that he likes but he needs to show me attention too.. when i tell him he just gets mad. Ugh. I really don't know what's going on with me but i feel so emotional lately and i really want to just hang out with him and do family things but I'm stuck at home all day long. I go to my parents house sometimes but its not really where i want to be. I just want to be with him but i can't because he's constantly working. Its seriously putting me in a depression and i refuse to take depression pills is there any other thing to make me happy?? My daughter makes me really happy but i want to make her more happy and do fun things outside of our house as a family with her. We didn't do anything this Christmas we barely bought presents because his job don't give us time. I'm just really upset. Anyone have advice without me taking pills?
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@maymommy2011 i don't have a car either. He takes it to work and he works way across town
@wilsomom your completely right! Sunshine automatically lifts my mood, but only for a little while. I exercise constantly i like don't stop moving all day. I try to get cleaning done but she wakes up when i get off the bed and wakes up when she don't see me there. I don't even want to imagine how you do it. Your truly a hero to me! I give you major props!!
Also take ten- fifteen minutes a day for you time, doesn't sound like much but it will help. After Hubby comes home and relaxes a bit read a chapter of a book, do a puzzle (cross word, word search, anything to keep your mind active) or give yourself a facial one small thing a day should help improve your mood.
@jules those are great ideas but really hard to do without a car.
@jules when it gets a little warmer I'll definitely do that!.
Have a no phone/tv time after work an hour everynight, but remember that we get breaks. On most days taking care of babies (except newborns) is not as hard as working 12 hours. He probably feels worn out try to schedule time to talk without baby girl.
Side note you need time without the lo. Even if you don't think she is the problem there is always a worry when my son is around. I grocery shop once a week alone. The weight off my shoulders is amazing and just like u he is my life. What state are you in?
I also believe I said she needed to get away from both of them once a week.
I enjoy taking care of my son and don't really see it as work. He is an extension of me if I keep him happy and healthy then I am happy.
For you and your baby i would say try setting up a play date at your house. That way you don't have to go out, but you can interact with other women.
As far as you and hubby, i would say that instead of asking him for attention that you plan some fun adult time for you an him. I know that its frustrating when you want to see more than the same four walls, but it works. When i feel like that, i try to be more loving and playful with my hubby so that he'll want to have fun.
Im a GREAT babysitter lol, but i doubt i live close to you