I'm in the waiting room...JUST WENT TO E.R.!!

WilsomomWilsomom
edited May 2013 in Not Pregnancy Related - NPR
Waiting to see if they're going to admit my son to an inpatient program. He was suicidal all weekend & cut his arm to pieces from his wrist on up to his elbow. At least 50 cuts maybe more. His gf ran away, the cops had him tell on her (which he did for her safety, she's diabetic & didn't have her meds) then lied to her & her parents & told them he's a bad kid & that he ratted her out. (they probably had him confused with his brother who unfortunately is a bad kid.) Plus a bunch of other drama. They better freaking keep him, he needs serious help.
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  • WilsomomWilsomom
    At first she just wanted him to sign some kind of "no harm contract" stating he promised not to hurt himself. I'm like wtf?! Someone's about to kill themselves bc they see no point in living & you think they're going to heed a stupid no harm contract?!
  • sands3sands3
    Oh no! I'm so sorry your going thru this. I hope he gets the help he needs!
  • julesjules
    Im sorry :(.... so his gf ran away but first told him where? And then he cut himself? And the people at the inpatient program where going to just have him sign a paper and let him leave? His already hurt himself too little too late for a form....
  • ExcitedForOctoberExcitedForOctober
    I'm sorry you have to go through all this! Hope he gets better.
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    Because he's a minor can't you sign him in? That's what my parents did for my sister.
  • LittleFaeLittleFae
    I'm so sorry you and your son are going through this.
    But I'm so happy that you are stepping up to help him. Most parents ignore their children when they get like this and don't know how or what their children are going though.
  • perlyperly
    Im so sorry you have to go through this. I'll keep you in my prayers :)
  • LittleFaeLittleFae
    He's in my thoughts. And I'll be lighting a candle for him
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    They're keeping him. What pisses me off is when I took him to the e.r. Sunday for breaking his fingers (he punched the door when his gf was upset) the dr saw all the cuts & didn't send him to the 5th floor. I just found out today that's a federal law. It was so sad & he was bawling like a baby Sunday. I was able to comfort him as much as I could & he said he loves me & thanks for understanding. We have gotten close through all this, but he still needs professional help. Thanks @everyone for letting mehave a place to talk about it & get some support!
  • 2girls_2boys2girls_2boys
    A long time ago (when I was 14 15 ) my bf around that time use to cut his arms and act depressed just to control me it was really scary I hope your son get the help he needs ..... and good job momma stay strong
  • julesjules
    Well hopefully this really helps I'm glad they kept him. And sounds like this girl is not best influence his already going through enough he doesn't need another person whose going through bunch stuff too. I hope he can realize that and gets healthy soon! Lots prayers for him :)
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    @2girls_1boy It is def scary! & I'm trying to stay strong, thanks.

    @jules yeah, she's not a good influence at all. Thanks for the prayers!

    It's so weird having both my oldest boys gone at the same time. :/
  • Maddysmom16Maddysmom16
    I had a friend when I was younger that was a cutter her life was screwed up her mom was a crackwhore and she had to take care of her younger sister she cut to the point of stitches she came cryingto my one time because she cut her leg so deep u could seebthe layers down to her bone and her jackass mother wouldnt do anything but shes better now
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    @Maddysmom16 Omg that's awful! His are just very superficial, but it's scary...what if he slipped & accidentally cut a large vein or something, ya know? I think/hope he's getting some real help now.
  • 2ndtimearound2ndtimearound
    It's so hard being a mom...it must killing you to see your son in such pain. So sorry you are going through this, and I hope your son gets help and feels better soon.
  • julesjules
    Well let me know if u hear anything. And I can't imagine my daughter not being here so.different then my step daughter. But just keep telling yourself this is safe and good place for him. And hopefully the other one will finally learn his lesson.
  • stellastella
    Your in my thought. I went through this with my brother so I know how hard it is.stay strong Really glad that they kept him hopefully he gets the help he needs.
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    Update:
    He got out today. It's just a weird situation. He said he told them he was doing better than he really was so they would let him out. I also found out today that hee's been hearing voices & seeing shadows. They gave him schizophrenia meds. He's acting so weird today...talking fast, shaking & bouncing his legs, etc like he's sped up, but his face looks down & out. I'm so confused. We have to lock up all the razors & meds in the house & take the gun to my mom's. And he still wants to go to his dad's for the summer in 2 weeks. My husband thinks he should go, but his dad works all day & he's be alone for over 12 hours. I feel so lost about what to do. I can't understand why he lied to get out & I'm supposed to be ok with that?! Oh & I asked the psychiatrist for an official diagnoses & she said they diagnose anyone under 18. Wtheck?!
  • perlyperly
    That's so weird that they let him go. Im really not sure what else you could do. In the meantime, just keep an eye on him.

    As far as him going to his dad's for the summer, i was one of the few that said you shouldn't let him go.
    Im all for letting him have a relationship with his dad and all that good stuff, but in my opinion, his health comes first and right now his health is not at its best. He needs more help than you thought when this all started and to send him off right now is like purposely putting him in danger.

    Im going to suggest again that you do not let him go. Talk to him and tell him that once his health has gotten better that you will allow him to go, but that until then, it is your job as a mother to help and look after him in these time.
  • natashalynnnatashalynn
    ...what!? This sounds exactly like my sister. I'm not trying to scare you, but I walked in on her one day, and she had cut her calf about half a foot long and a few inches deep. Lots of blood. (I should also mention, I'm almost five years younger than her, so it scared the Shit out of me) she was also hearing voices. (Found this out later). She was using hard drugs, cutting herself (in places I didn't see till years later, legs, stomach etc) your son needs help. Serious help. My sister tried to say several times that she was fine, and she just wasn't!!! If you have to march back to the hospital or even call cps (that's essentially what my parents did...and cps forced her to go with them. They put her in a psych ward against her will which started the process of her getting better) this will not fix itself. I know you're stressed, and I'm sorry this is a novel. It killed me to watch my sister go through this, I can't imagine watching your child.
    <3
  • monkey_girlmonkey_girl
    Have you talked to his dad about everything that's going on? I'm sure he'd agree that him going over there is not a good idea.
  • ExcitedForOctoberExcitedForOctober
    You have to take him back.
  • julesjules
    He needs to see whoever put him on the medicine his body is obviously not doing well. And also contact his dad tell him everything and that they might actually want him back u don't know what will happen between now and then. And if he were to visit he needs to be under supervision at all times he can do serioud damage to himself. What if he were to cut himself so much while his at work that he dies from the blood loss it's not too scare u but that's the things his dad needs to think. If be can provide proper care then ok but he can't be left unsupervised.
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    I totally agree with all of you, I just don't have the energy to respond or tag right now. I'll try again tmrw. This has been a very draining day. Thank you for your support. <3
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    Oh, and I meant they *don't* diagnose anyone under 18. How do they give meds & treatment without a diagnosis?
  • julesjules
    Honestly sounds weird to me... I mean if it's doc they diagnose anyone at any age no matter what the issue is. I'm confused on that. I could see if they say we don't want to give him medicine since we're not technically diagnosing him. However they are giving medicine so that means even if not on paper they are diagnosing him with something even if it's depression...I would call and say since his not diagnosed why am I giving him medicine? Also for their own protection wouldn't they want a reason to give sometime medicine..
  • LeviLuv8LeviLuv8
    Wow I'm so sad for you and your family! Must be extremely stressful! Like everyone else said I would definitely take him back. Tell them he lied, I dunno. At this point I'm scared for you and the younger ones who can't defend themselves if he was to come after them :(
  • WilsomomWilsomom
    I just took him to the er....he's having tremors & slurred speech. His blood pressure is a little high too. 140/78. Could this day/week/year get any worse?! :'(
  • perlyperly
    Oh hun im so sorry! I hope he's ok. Let us know what happens.
  • julesjules
    Oh no. Hope everything is ok and they can figure out if it's the medicine or what? I'm so sorry. Be praying for him.
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