I had that same problem with those formulas my son had a milk intolerance we tried soy and it constipated him so bad he was sent for stomach xrays. His Dr ended up putting him on the nutramigen its made by enfamil but its for babies who are allergic to dairy. If u do end up using formula, utilize the WIC program I never ever had to buy a single can of formula it was all provided for us until he turned 1.
Hmm that's weird when I went in to apply it was approved that day and I left the office with my card. I hope u do get it, it helps alot even if u don't need formula u get a nice food package for u and then baby when they reach 4 months
@adriens_mommy: I have to go through a case worker which sucks because my caseworker is lazy, I wish I could get a new one. My cousin has WIC and it comes in handy a lot.
Why do you have to go through a case worker? Im sorry, but i've never heard of that. I, like @adriens_mommy just went to the office and applied and i qualified right on the spot and i left the office with my card.
@perly: Illinois has the worst government assistance ever. Everything now goes through a case worker and I can't even get LINK/SNAP until AFTER the baby is born. I am gonna try to do it at a nearby office, but I remember them giving my cousin the run around. Its more Chicago than Illinois though.
It is so hard to get any type of GA in Chicago and when you do get it they give you the run around or hardly give you anything. They acted like they didn't want to give me a Medical Card. I see why people move to other cities (mainly Springfield) because Chicago is the worst.
may be worrying abit too much about latch issues when baby isnt here yet, maybe because youve heard a lot of horror stories about Bfeeding or latch issues? Honestly pumping and feeding with a bottle although possible is so much more work than just nursing the baby... a babies suck is much more efficient than a pump so it is usually necessary to nurse the baby at least half the time and maybe pump half the time to keep up supply..especially in the first 6 weeks while your building supply, keeping baby at the breast is pretty important.. . I was worried about my daughter feeling left out or jealous with the baby nursing or on my lap a lot to nurse but its really become a great snuggle bonding time for all 3 of us; she usually comes and sits right next to me and cuddles under my arm or lays her head right next to her baby brother and snuggles him..I was nervous too but it really turned into a bonding thing for all of us sometimes I give her a snack when he's nursing so she has her lil something too.
I haven't heard or read any horror stories about breastfeeding. I am the type of person who like to see things for myself. Other people's experiences doesn't influence me because we are all different.
I clearly stated IF HE DOESN'T LATCH ON I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW ABOUT EXCLUSIVELY PUMPING. For me I do fear he might not latch on, but I think that is a common fear that most (or some) FTM who wants to breastfeed have. I'm not saying he won't latch on because I won't know anything until he gets here.
Hopefully he does latch on, but even if he does I am doing BOTH feeding from my breast and the bottle. Mostly from my breast.
I think being prepared for both (breastfeeding & pumping) is a good thing. I don't want to be one of those mothers who cry like crazy because the baby won't latch and/or end up turning to formula because they weren't prepared and didn't do any research.
@veevee don't worry I know exactly what u mean I'm glad u made the post it's helping me as well getting more ready I like having back up plan. And they way my daughter was it was soo much easier for me to pump and bottle feed I think it depends on the person what's going on and on the baby. It doesn't mean I gave up I just did what worked and ur getting ready too! Plus I had to go to work as well and wanted her used to bottle it worked out well!
I did it until 6 months but we had a lot going on with work and hubby lost his job by that point I've tried a lot and I've so small that I was over it. To me that was good I want what is best for my kids just like you but sometimes life has different pan..I don't see anything wrong with formula either so at that point it was important for me to enjoy my daughter and not feel overwhelmed by things ya know...I hope I don't sound careless bc I did give it a lot of though and talked to my hubby that's just how it worked out back then. I might do longer this time if it all works out well especially since I'll also have toddler around. But if not no matter what I'll do my best trying to breastfeed then possibly just pump hopefully either one works well. If not I know what formula I like that's what will do. I think it's ok to think about these things and have plan. Imagine not even thinking about this then it possibly not working out then being in a situation that your beating yourself up about it to the point of over stress possible depression. I like thinking ahead to be safe than sorry after all life isn't in my hands but Gods and knowing how some face serious ppd I don't want that from being overwhelmed by all the changes that happen with having new baby. Not saying breatfeeding cases depression at all I think its amazing to breastfeed but it can be one of many to overwhelm a new mommy.
Well, actually, in your very first paragraph you said you were only going to breastfeed at the hospital and then switch to pumping at home because you're afraid of the frustration that comes with nursing and you'll just end up quitting anyways. And I'm only saying this because I can tell you got annoyed at @scarlettsmama but she is right.
I will apologize to @scarlettsmams because I was actually taking my anger from S/O out on her and that's not fair at all. I am very sorry about that.
@starrxoxo9: Yes I did say I will get frustrated if he doesn't latch on and I'll just go to exclusively pumping. But I never really said he wouldn't latch on at all. My frustration would come from him not latching on if doesn't latch on at the hospital or at home. I should've been more clear in my original post.
@jules: I have no problem with formula. I was a FF baby. If I can't do either at least I know about formula. Most of cousins FF their babies and I used to make their kids bottles when I babysat. I witnessed a few family members and friends go through the dramas of not being about to breastfeed their babies. One family member went into a deep depression because of it. I pray to God to give me strength to not be like that.
Ya thats like me I have no problem with it..my plan is to breastfeed if baby has latching problems that get to the point of frustration to the max and I feel down about it I will just pump and hope I have good supply this time l. I had bad supply long before getting my pump. If my supply sucks even when im doing everything like drinking lots water, eating well and often, good rest, no stress, Gatorade, vitamin water, fenugreek, mothers milk, dark beer, lactation cookie, I will do it all but if nothing I want to be ok with formula bc like u said some dont mentally prepare or ever think that could be their case and get soo frustrated with themselves that it leads to depression which I would hate to ever have I just wanna enjoy my babies they grow up way too fast to waste time being sad. And like I said that only happens to some but I rather be ready then have to be in that situation. I like being myself a happy go lucky busy body
Oh ya ive been thinking about that too it would be easier it basically has multiple of the supplements in one and supposedly taste well! Just wish it was sold in stores even if it were just at baby stores ya know.
Sorry if I came off in a negative way, that was so not my intention, I didn't read any of the comments just the first post, I was just trying to offer the advice I know of from assisting women through breastfeeding and my own personal experience
@jules Milky IS sold at stores. Motherhood has it, toys r us, babies r us. I saw it the last few times I went. My motherhood is having a buy 3 get 1 free sale on everything so that included milky.
@ScarlettsMama you didn't come off negative at all. I appreciate all types of advices and encouragement. I was just in a bad mood that day and I apologize.
@luvmy5 I was just at BRU a few days ago and didn't see it. Maybe because I wasn't really looking for it. I'm gonna ask about it next time I'm there.
@luvmy5 great! Thank you I'm very excited I didn't see it last time I went that was week ago but I wasn't looking for it exactly so I'll go look for it for sure!
@luvmy5 of really?! I just looked it up I think the closest once to me are only the clothing not sure if they will have it but I can always call and ask
There are other systems to help baby latch if he doesn't on his own. Supplemental feeding tube I believe is what one is called. Also, a common problem isn't lack of a latch its actually improper latch and it is painful, and is a big reason most moms quit bfing. If you have questions you can message me, I'm not a lactation consultant yet but I am in school to be one. With my son we went through a ton of problems when it came to bfing but sticking through it and staying strong through all the painful and tiring moments is worth it for both of you. I had no support when it came to bfing and I had to learn everything on my own, i never saw an LC either. I found the most support and advice on pregly. Probably the only reason I stuck with it.
When I returned to work my son was 5 weeks old so I pumped majority of the time. pumping is possible but it is hard to keep a good supply, if that's the route you go I suggest taking fenugreek to keep your supply established. And pumping every time baby eats so you can keep up your supply during growth spurts and cluster feeding. Some woman are not able to pump, even if they have a great supply a pump just doesn't get milk out. So keep that in mind too. Just do research so you are prepared a head of time for all different scenerios not just latch issues.
Thanks @brodysmamma. That's how it is with me the lack of support at home. It's one coworker that has been encouraging me. She breastfed all of child for a year.
S/O has no faith in me whatsoever. Claiming I'll run out fast and resort to formula and that no many girls pump as much as you think. I tell him about his lack of education when it comes breastfeeding and babies us hilarious and that he needs to shut up. I told him to stop listening to other people because you don't know what they were going through and most of the women at work that he ask either only formula fed their kids, gave up when the baby didn't latch or gave up once their supply got low.
That's what happened with me at home my fiance always told me to just use formula it was the same thing etc, and no one in my family or his family breastfed and if they did it was only a few months. So I really didn't have any help and I had to research everything I knew. I battled not producing any milk or colostrum after 24 hours of my sons birth for almost 2 days before my milk came in, so he had to have formula, then we had latch issues. After I got that down we got thrush. when I went back to work I didn't have a stash of milk saved, I had low supply issues due to not being able to pump often and not being able to “empty" my breasts at work. Then I got clogged ducts. It was tough, but after I found fenugreek it helped my supply issues and I learned to empty my breasts in a shorter amount of time at work and i researched babys growth spurts and how to watxh for them so i could increase my supply if i couldnt nurse snd only had a pump. After everything we went through I ended up being able to nurse for 19 almost 20 months and I'm really happy about it. It's worth it, mostly for baby but for mom too. I was told even before my son was born i need to prepare for the possibility of not being able to nurse, I should have been told to be prepared to nurse and how to overcome obstacles that may come up. Just prepare yourself with as much knowledge as you can, no matter what feeding method you chose. Even if you chose formula, research why you want to use it, just like you would with breast feeding. And formula isn't as easy as people make it seem. Thrush is more common along with allergies to ingredients in formula. That's my suggestion.
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It is so hard to get any type of GA in Chicago and when you do get it they give you the run around or hardly give you anything. They acted like they didn't want to give me a Medical Card. I see why people move to other cities (mainly Springfield) because Chicago is the worst.
I clearly stated IF HE DOESN'T LATCH ON I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW ABOUT EXCLUSIVELY PUMPING. For me I do fear he might not latch on, but I think that is a common fear that most (or some) FTM who wants to breastfeed have. I'm not saying he won't latch on because I won't know anything until he gets here.
Hopefully he does latch on, but even if he does I am doing BOTH feeding from my breast and the bottle. Mostly from my breast.
I think being prepared for both (breastfeeding & pumping) is a good thing. I don't want to be one of those mothers who cry like crazy because the baby won't latch and/or end up turning to formula because they weren't prepared and didn't do any research.
@starrxoxo9: Yes I did say I will get frustrated if he doesn't latch on and I'll just go to exclusively pumping. But I never really said he wouldn't latch on at all. My frustration would come from him not latching on if doesn't latch on at the hospital or at home. I should've been more clear in my original post.
@jules: I have no problem with formula. I was a FF baby. If I can't do either at least I know about formula. Most of cousins FF their babies and I used to make their kids bottles when I babysat. I witnessed a few family members and friends go through the dramas of not being about to breastfeed their babies. One family member went into a deep depression because of it. I pray to God to give me strength to not be like that.
@luvmy5 I was just at BRU a few days ago and didn't see it. Maybe because I wasn't really looking for it. I'm gonna ask about it next time I'm there.
S/O has no faith in me whatsoever. Claiming I'll run out fast and resort to formula and that no many girls pump as much as you think. I tell him about his lack of education when it comes breastfeeding and babies us hilarious and that he needs to shut up. I told him to stop listening to other people because you don't know what they were going through and most of the women at work that he ask either only formula fed their kids, gave up when the baby didn't latch or gave up once their supply got low.