i need advice please- bf left to mexico

hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
Ok, my boyfriend told me yesterday that there was an emergency with his sister in mexico and he said either him or one of his brothers has to go. He told me he wouldn't leave without me, but today I found out he left without telling me and now I can't get a hold of him maybe because he's on the plane. Hopefully he will call me soon. I need a passport and maybe that's why he left without me but why wouldnt he tell me? I love him so much and I want to be with him forever. I need to go there.... but first I need to get a passport asap. I plan on driving, by myself... I live in P.A. by the way. I'm so scared... but I need to go because I'm pretty sure he can't come back here. I hope he calls me, I'm scared I will never hear from him. He said he loves me, he said he wants to be with me forever, but I don't understand how he can leave me without saying anything. By the way I'm not pregnant ( so travelling shouldn't be a problem), I was a month ago with his child but had a mc. I've never drove anywhere over two hours away... and mexico is around 42 hours away. I think I can do it by myself... I have to because he is my one true love.

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  • happymommyof4happymommyof4
    If he left without telling he must not care that much..dont go till u hear from him if ur mexican u should know its not safe with all the narkos over there especially for a girl by herself...just wait only time will tell if u guys r ment to be:)
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    edited March 2011
    @happymommyof4 I'm not Mexican.. he is. what is narkos?
  • SupppTayyySupppTayyy
    Passports take 3 weeks atleast and that's with paying an extra almost $100 for it.
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    edited March 2011
    @suppptayyy I read online I can get it in 5-7 days with rush service. It costs like $150 plus the government fee of $170... yes its a lot but its worth it. I need to be with him. I love him so much and I can't lose him. I still haven't heard from him but its possible he can still be on the plane.
  • happymommyof4happymommyof4
    Oh lol there drug dealers theres a lot of drug cartels just killing people for no reason and when u go driving the so called cops stop u a lot and jack money ofg of u..so if u were to go wait for a passport and go in a plane and make sure he picks u up from the airport..oh and has he called u?
  • SupppTayyySupppTayyy
    @hoping4firstbebe .. im just so confused, he just up and left ? Without a note? A phone call, text , PocoMail....? How? Why? I understand urgency, but he must know that you are probably worried sick. It's just completely selfish and immature in my eyes. He is obviously not thinking straight.
  • jcmommyjcmommy
    It's very dangerous for a woman to be driving that distance into a dangerous place like that.! If he didn't even tell you that he was going, how are you ever going to find him?! I know you're upset, but you have to realize its best to stay where you are.
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    @suppptayyy. All I know is there was an emergency with his sister and his mom wanted either him or one of his other 2 brothers to come back. Saturday night he told me that, and he said they didn't know who was going... and then Sunday I find out from his brother's gf that he left... without me. I understand if he needed to get back right away and couldn't wait for me to get a passport but he could have told me... I'm just scared I will never hear from him again.
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    @jcmommy @august22baby. I'm not going to do anything until I hear from him because obviously I can't. I have no idea where he is. He's not illegal, but he's not a u.s. citizen either. It's complicated. He has immigration appointments and they say he can stay, but now that he went back to mexico I don't think they would let him back over here.
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  • artistmammaartistmamma
    I know how awful & lonely & helpless you must feel, but I agree with the other ladies; Mexico is VERY dangerous in many parts of the country. If you're going alone, don't know where exactly that you're going, don't speak fluent Spanish, etc., you're risking not just your freedom, but your life. Human trafficking is a big problem across the border, & drug cartels are kidnapping Americans for ransom money. I saw a program on National Geographic about this issue a few months ago. You could literally go down there & never be seen or heard from again, & how are the people who love you supposed to handle that?

    Honey, if he loves you & respects you, how could he leave the country without so much as a goodbye? Not even a text message, a note left with his brother for you, a voicemail...nothing? That's really wrong of him to do. I know it's hard as hell, but the best & safest thing is for you to wait to see if he contacts you. If he doesn't, than did he even love you in the first place at all? And do you deserve to feel this fear, stress, & utter abandonment? You don't! So PLEASE think of yourself first, & your personal safety.

    I truly am sorry you're going through this & I wish you the best...
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    I truly don't think I can live without him... and I don't want to. The only thing left to do now is wait for a phone call...
  • artistmammaartistmamma
    @hoping4firstbebe: I do understand that emotion, & feeling like your whole life & world are wrapped up in one man. I've been there, & it hurts like crazy when it ends. Feels like you've lost everything; including your mind. (But trust me, it never is the end of the world, no matter how it hurts at the time.) I just didn't want to see you running off to Mexico alone & getting hurt or killed. It's scary & not something to take lightly or do on an impulse.

    But all I'm saying is to put yourself in his shoes: Could you have left him, not knowing when or if you'll see each other again, & not reached out to him first? To #1, at LEAST let him know you were leaving the country, and #2, to say goodbye & I love you? That's what kills me about his actions. How could he do that to you?

    Hopefully, his family will help keep you posted & you learn what's going on soon. My thoughts are with you! <3
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    @artistmama. Thank u for caring. If I was him I wouldn't have done what he did. I just wish he would contact me, I can't sleep.

    @august22baby. I'm 22. I know I'm young but I also know I love him more than I have ever loved anyone before.
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    @everyone. I still haven't heard from him and its killing me. I left work early because I started crying on break and couldn't stop. I went to his brothers work and talked to him but he didn't help because he has no way to get a hold of him I guess. He said he will let me know if he calls him.... I guess my boy friend didn't take his cell phone with. I have no idea why the hell not. I hope he can somehow get a hold of me because I can't think right, or sleep or do anything.
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    edited March 2011
    @august22baby.@artistmamma. He finally called me today. He says his cell phone doesn't work there. He said it was a last minute decision. And he couldn't call yesterday because of the long flight and car ride.
  • artistmammaartistmamma
    @hoping4firstbebe: I'm so glad you heard from him. Sorry for the lateness of my reply. How are things going now? Any updates or any news? I hope you're doing well, hun! :)
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    @artistmamma he's still in Mexico, I might be going there in a week, I'm not sure yet. I got my passport already.
  • lisardelislisardelis
    Don't go I am latina and believe me u don't want to be in a country u don't know latino countries are extremely dangerous kidnapping robbery rapes...and mexico is not the exception. I can tell u u would be sorry you are a vulnerable woman they can stop ur car and leave u with no papers or take u somewhere and then ask for money I hope this helps u break thru reality. Cus is not as easy as u think if later he tries To contact u u will be out of reach ...let him do the first move don't panic...man don't like to be persued and if he left like hat he has a reason...Ill be praying for u...u just don't understand how extremely dangerous is there God protect u my friend
  • hoping4firstbebehoping4firstbebe
    @lisardelis I've decided if I go there I will fly. I got my passport already. I should find out this week if I'm going or not.
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