soo im not sure what to think... (kinda lengthy)

charliebby1116charliebby1116
edited March 2011 in Pregnancy and fathers
So my babys "sperm donor" that's what I call my bd... and I were never actually together we were just "dating" and only for three months when I got prego he was still "trying to get over his ex" that cheated on him

anyways when he found out I was prego he wanted me to get an abortion he even cried to me and threaten to take his life if I didnt get one... he would constantly verbally abuse me and would tell me him and his ex were getting back together... since I don't need that stress right now I completely ignored him and blocked him off my phone this all happened two weeks ago...

Two days ago he leaves me 7 voice mails so I call him back and he's talking to me super nice as if nothing ever happened and wanted to know when the next prenatal doc app was... then we hang out yesterday had a great day nothing went wrong and today I go on his Fb and he has a pic of him and his ex... what should I do in this situation?

Comments

  • jalemjalem
    I think the reason that he was/is being nice to you is that he wants to be in the baby's life and i would say try it out... i know it might be hard with him being with his ex(if he is) but maybe he realized that the life you are so tenderly caring for in you he helped create... you dont have to be together for him to be a part of the baby's life... and you can monitor his interaction with the baby when it is born if he is still so "nice"... if he goes back to being an a$$ kick him to the curb again and tell him if he wants any part of the baby's life to file a paternity suit to get visitation then you can bring up his verbal abuse to the courts and he will only get supervised visitation...
  • jkringle4910jkringle4910
    If he is back with his ex he was prob being nice to you so you don't say anything to her I would just ignore him and go though
    the pregnancy by yourself yes no from experience its hard to be by yourself at a time like this im 8 weeks and I have twin girls they r almost 3 and my husband is in the navy and hes all the way in HI and it is hard to br by yourself but for you it sounds like it will be alot less stressful if you well forget about him for the time being anyway
  • nicksmommynicksmommy
    omg he is such a pu** sorry but crying for u to get an abortion and telling u his gonna take his life away is wayyyy too much..u are better off alone hun :)>-
  • charliebby1116charliebby1116
    Your completely right! I know we don't need to be together he just keeps putting my hopes up and then just crushes them and I don't want him to be the same way with his baby... but your right I think I just need to hear it to remind myself... thanks :)
  • charliebby1116charliebby1116
    @jkringle4910 your right I'll just block him off again and just wait and see if he really wants to be in the babys life or if he's just all talk

    @nicksmommy haha Ohh trust me I know haha I really don't want to be with him either way he's like the biggest liar ever I just don't know if keeping him around for only baby stuff is even ok
  • jalemjalem
    @charliebby1116 i dont know who the first comment was too... but if it was to me i know that you are a strong woman and can do this on your own... so either way the worse that can happen is your baby is raised and loved by you and possibly see his/her father
  • charliebby1116charliebby1116
    @jalem it was directed to you sorry I hadn't seen the other comments till afterwards.... true true which I don't mind I'm the one that has wanted it since day one so I don't see why hes all of a sudden all interested.. hmm
  • SupppTayyySupppTayyy
    Co parenting.... civil, nice, and doing everything you both can to support that child from day one even if you're not physically together. It will be hard.. but the best decision for both of you. Now go focus on yourself! Relax, put your feet up and tell your baby everything will be just fine :)
  • charliebby1116charliebby1116
    @SupppTayyy that's what I'm most likely will end up doing :) thanks :)
  • jalemjalem
    well alot of men will realize later how important it is or that they really do want it... for instance my mom was forced into an abortion when she was 17 by her mom... because the baby's daddy wasn't absolutly positive about having the baby and marriage... so my mom was at her appointment on the table just being started on when her bf broke into the room and told the dr to stop and told my mom that he wanted to keep it that the baby was a part of him and if he had to get married to my mom he would because that baby was his... unfortunately he came after they had already injected and killed the baby... and they have been crushed ever since... although i am lucky that it happened because my mom said that if she never had that abortion she would never have had as many children as she did to try to replace the baby she lost and being the youngest i am happy i am alive...
  • charliebby1116charliebby1116
    @jalem wow that's a crazy story I'm so sorry to hear that :/ but I'm glad it had a good end result :') maybe things will get better we do have a long way to go :) thanks that was so inspirational
  • jalemjalem
    no problem... and im glad about the end result too... otherwise i wouldnt be able to feel anything... haaha... lolz and whether things get better between the two of you or not the fact is he is the father but you have the last say on whether you want him in the baby's life or not(unless he files a paternity suit) and my mother always told me a baby doesnt necessarily need it's father in his/her life, just a father figure that it can look up to and be proud of...
  • charliebby1116charliebby1116
    Ahh I'm soo glad this app exist! Lol thank you all seriously I feel so much better :D
    @jalem thanks its so true my sis has two boys who's father isn't in the picture and they're perfectly fine my dad does a good job at filling the spot of a father figure :)
  • jalemjalem
    *heavy laden country accent* well im glad i could be of assistance maam... you have a happy pregnancy you hear...
  • charliebby1116charliebby1116
    Hahaha :) <3 thank you mam! ;) you too!
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