multiple babyshowers??? is it wrong...

jalemjalem
edited March 2011 in Pregnant
i live in hawaii on Oahu and i know maybe 9 people here... but i was raised on maui and that is where all of my family is and i plan on going there as soon as the baby is born to introduce her to her family... we are going to be moving back to texas as soon as we think baby is ready for a 12+ hour flight and that is where his family is... ok so heres the thing... my mom and sister want to give me a baby shower here which i see is pointless because there are going to be 9 people here... and i dont know them all that well, but my family on maui want me to have one there as well but seeing as the baby would be here already i dont really concider it a baby shower more of a welcome to the world party... and he feels if we have one on maui we should have one where his family will be able to come to, but by then baby is gonna be 6+ weeks and i feel people are gonna look at me like oh she just want to get free stuff... i really dont care and wouldn't be having any shower if everyone didnt keep bugging me about it... so is it ok for me to have all of them... i dont wanna seem like a user...

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  • namelessnameless
    I known people who have had family bby shower for both sides
    friends bby shower..and coworkers..all separate ..my friend had 3..I myself only had 1..but it was huge!!
  • luvmyboosluvmyboos
    I say yea. If they wanna throw u a party that's on them lol. Just enjoy it :) u and baby deserve it all....
  • jalemjalem
    ok... im just worried that someone is gonna say something along the lines of "this is the third shower she's had so all i got her was a card... she's just trying to use us to get more things.."
  • magcawmagcaw
    everyone wants to celebrate your baby! let them! you're not being greedy, you're just having welcome parties. i am pregnant for the third time in 4/5 years and i have every intention of having a shower for this baby. my family and friends all got together to celebrate my other kids; there's no reason why this baby shouldn't have the same kinds of pictures to look back on. i'm not going to be asking for gifts unless people want to bring them (though i certainly don't plan on turning them down). i just want to celebrate. :) and if someone makes a rude comment like that then they have no business coming to the party in the first place.
  • jalemjalem
    well this is my first and my bf's first (not counting the maybe baby concidering he never knew she was pregnant and didnt have a shower) and we dont care about gifts.. just making people shut up about whether we are gonna have it or not...
  • snredasnreda
    I had 4 with my first. Families dont get along
  • jalemjalem
    ok... thanks yall this makes me feel soooo much better... i was worried i would be hated on because of it..
  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    I think it is perfectly fine I am having like 3 one my best friend is throwing for my family and friends on my moms side of the family the other two one is for my dads side that my sister is throwing and one my boyfriends mom and sister is throwing.I said 1 and just have it at my house since we have the room but my friend made a point that not everyone is going to want to travel 2.5 hours away for a baby shower. so idk i felt werid about it too but if everyone insists let them. Besides you dont want to offend anyone either right lol
  • jalemjalem
    @samantha youre right... i would rather not offend someone for not having one than have someone mad because i had more than one...
  • Mommie_of_2Mommie_of_2
    I had 3 myself with my 1st. Child. I saw nothing wrong with it since I didnt even ask for one. I had one in Milwaukee wit my dads side. One at olive garden wit my moms side and one my mom threw me wit friends and coworkers. They all were nice. Didnt have to buy for daughter for 6 months.
  • soon2b3soon2b3
    I will probably end up with. 2-3 showers bc of.the same situation
  • jalemjalem
    @mommie_of_2 the only thing is that I will be throwing the last two parties myself because it's people asking me to have one not anyone throwing it for me...
  • jalemjalem
    @singlemomofsoontobe3 so you arent worried about people saying anything...
  • kansasmommakansasmomma
    I wouldn't worry about it at all!! Im having two, one where I love and one back home so everyone can see my baby girl!! Feel really blessed and lucky to have family and friends to be supportive, I have friends that don't have any support!! Congrats on ur baby and enjoy your baby showers!!!!
  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    Ya its perfectly normal, alot of people don't want to go where they don't know anyone and would rather throw you one then introducing strange people or having strange people at their house as well. or like my boyfriends mom and sister they just want to be the ones to throw me one and my best friend wants to be the one to throw me one same with my sister so instead of having like everyone work together at throwing just one and people getting mad at each other just let them all go at it and you just enjoy the cake and games and baby stuff. Don't stress about it, and I know lots of people that had baby showers after baby was born for many different reasons (one was because the sex of baby was a surprise). so no big deal everyone will just be excited to see the new baby anyways :)
  • jalemjalem
    @kansasmomma thanks... and i will... i guess i better start planning...
    @samantha true i guess... thanks again...
  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    ya no problem. and if no one wants to throw your shower ask the ones closest to you and just let her know that you will help out with funds if thats the problem as to why they are not throwing you one because you shouldnt be stressing about it yourself. they should be volunteering. so just kind of try handing it off to someone else in a subtle way or ask someone to help you. good luck
  • mschopmschop
    I will have at lest 3 maybe 4. One for the dad's side of the family, one for my side which are all two hours away and I would not want them all to drive that far. One from my friends who would not get along with the family, and the forth would be BF work don't know if you would call a baby shower or just a few people giving gifts
  • jalemjalem
    @samantha my sister is throwing the one where i live... but the one on maui it's all my cousins and friends from school and stuff so no one really close to me to throw it but they want one so they can give me stuff... and the one for his family i dont know them well enough for someone to throw it for me but they want one too... for pictures and to give gifts and stuff..
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  • brodysmammabrodysmamma
    Oh gotcha. I would ask one of my cousins to help out if I where in your shoes, and maybe your man can ask one of his relitives to throw it because I dont think thats its fair you would have to play hostess at someone elses house and plan the shower yourself, but if you want I know we dont know each other and I dont live in hawaii but I will help you over the internet or something. Pick out some games and what not.
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